2 posts tagged “street fairs”
Hi from the romantic heart of Silicon Valley, your Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach.
Well, with all the street fairs and festivals that have started that I just blogged about and recommended that you check out, roadways are blocked off. Our usual routes to
the shopping center
the shopping mall
our favorite bar
the social hall
the office
church
ARE BLOCKED!
I was driving up the San Francisco this morning to get my hair DONE at Joseph Cozza salon in The Gump's Building on Maiden Lane. And, wouldn't you know it? My usual route to 101 was BLOCKED to make room for Sunset Magazine's Street Festival. Hmm, I'll have to WALK over there (save some gas!) tomorrow and make some new friends and maybe even some new dates.
I had to TAKE A DETOUR.
And that got me thinking.
I've said this before in some different ways, but in order to MEET MORE PEOPLE and ergo GET MORE DATES, we need to do SOMETHING DIFFERENT.
Awhile back when I was suggesting that we try some classes at the Community College, or the Learning Annex, or WHEREVER. A coupla of the people responded saying grandma's favorite advise, "Oh, just do the activities you love, and you'll meet someone."
Well.....
You might.
And if you are 26 and not really serious about wanting to be in a great fulfilling and satisfying longterm romantic relationship that would lead to Marriage or your Life Partner (whether you covenant or not), sure, just keep doing what you doing and enjoying and maybe it will happen.
But if you are over 28 and you are starting to think about, "Heyyyyyy, you know, I really enjoy being Single. Being Single is great. I have a lot of fun with my friends. But.... ah, I kinda want to be in a relationship.... How do I really DO that now?" Then you actually need to....
DO NEW THINGS
Now as my buddy, Motivational Life Coach, Sue Crutcher recommends. Baby Steps. Baby Steps to change.
I am not suggesting that you move to France, New Orleans, or Phoenix, AZ.
You do not need to move THOUSANDS of miles away. Although you may have some reasons for doing so, and I cover that in my Romantic Love eBook (soon to be released, I'm reworking it). But in general, what DOES help is to do some new things which are few degrees different than what you are doing now.
That way, you meet people who are more likely ALIGNED with you, but sufficiently DIFFERENT than you to create CHEMISTRY. We NEED those differences for ROMANCE and SEXUAL ATTRACTION. Vive la différence! Thank God for them, or life would be too dull.
So, where I am, it is still early evening (my date is later tonight). what about TONIGHT? what are you doing? Are you home alone? Stop downloading the Porn as I tell my male clients, power down your computers. (You're gasping to be taken away from that Life Line.....) Ladies? Put DOWN the Romance Novel and go Write One of YOUR OWN!
and GET OUT.
Go to a bar for 90 minutes.
Go to a country western bar at about 7/7:30 pm for their Dance Lessons. you will meet 25 new people and a new skill. Introduce yourself to each person you dance with. Ask 7 of them to dance with you afterward. I don't care if they are their with their GF or BF. You just politely turn to the GF/BF and say, "I'm a novice and could really use the practice. Would you mind if I danced this dance with James?Abdul? Jane?Sonia?" Only a CLOD would say NO to that polite, respectful, couple honoring request. It might be THEIR favorite song, but then they'll probably say, "How about the NEXT song?" And if you are a man, you say to that lady who is already taken, "What you two have is really great." And you just sort of plant the seeds to be fixed up with any of her single girlfriends. You might even buy them a round of drinks and hang while drinking it, chit chatting. Many ladies LOVE to play matchmaker, and you just might get a date from it. You can always say, "I'll be back here in 2 wks. If you're GF would be more comfortable, she could just join the dance class then, and we'd meet then. Thanks!"
If CW dance is REALLY not your thing. There are Salsa classes. VERY sexy.
I don't care WHAT you do. You just CANNOT stay at HOME on Saturday night. GET OUT.
Then report back to me what you did to be accountable. (that includes that 28 yo man from The South here.....)
All the best,
April Braswell
WOW!
The Stanley Cup is OVER!
Congratulations to the Detroit Red Wings who played a GREAT series.
It's been TWO MONTHS of watching.
And now all the Hockey fans have all that time back in their lives... and perhaps you are .... still single....
And you are wondering, I'm single, I'm one of those singles ... what can I do this weekend to increase my chances to get dates? Or to get MORE dates?
Are you in a fulfilling romantic relationship like the one that you want and deserve? Steve and Sonya, I already know YOUR answers to that question about your joyfully fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationships. TG!
Are you going to be alone yet AGAIN this Friday and Saturday night?
Are you still looking for your Romantic Soul Mate? That special person for you to give your heart to?
Well, you could stay home... alone... AGAIN...
OR
You could GET OUT THERE and go PLACE yourself advantageously to meet other singles like yourself, or perhaps little more different than you so that you foster CHEMISTRY for a feeling of fabulous sexual tension. Marvelous sensation, isn't it?
OK. So you're asking, APRIL! I KNOW you are a great Romance Coach and an expert Online Dating Coach, but what am I to DO? What am I going to DO this weekend to up my chances of meeting other singles.
GO TO A STREET FAIR!
Yes, it's that time of year again.
Street Fairs. They are all over the place. Different ethnic festivals. Chinese. Russian. Italian. Irish. Indian. Japanese. Jewish Festivals. Latino Carnival. You try some different foods. Learn about a culture which is perhaps a bit different than your own. Or is your own and you are one of the ambassadors. Cool, n'est pas?
Doing this will require that you be open to a MultiCultural Dating, Interracial Dating relationship. Of course, where I live, this is like breathing. It's just such a GIVEN.
To find Street Fairs in your area, check out Google, naturally, as well as your local newspaper and alternative newspaper for their Events Calendar.
Part of the fun part of eating at one of these Street Fairs is the very eating of different food offers you a point over which to safely converse with OTHERS. "Oh, wow," sucking in breath, "I've never tasted food so HOT! WOW! Would you please pass me the plain yogurt?" and you have exchanged WORDS. We call that, Starting a Conversation. Now you're rolling!
Enjoy!
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
