11 posts tagged “romantic”
It's election time here in The States, and whatever your voting preferences, getting out (wait! you recognize that theme again from me, don't you?) and assisting with the campaign for
- national
- state
- local
politics means you will meet others!
Now my one really huge and careful caveat is, AVOID going to the opposing camp campaign headquarters. It will just drive both you and them crazy.
Well, even anger is arousal in the brain... so yah never know.
However, I really do suggest you go to the campaign headquarters of candidates you LIKE...
- John McCain and Sarah Palin
- Bacak Obama and Joe Biden
Or, perhaps in the case of the really local politicians, where you probably don't KNOW them all that well, go visit their HQs and meet NEW people.
- Ask the people there all about this politician.
- Consider volunteering....
While you are doing this, you will meet new LOCAL people. Grab a coffee with them. Those you meet at campaign headquarters might become your Autumn romance.... or something more. Who knows, n'est pas?
Be sure to check out my recent addition of an Online Dating Site Review, Internet Dating Site Guide for more ideas about WHERE to meet folks!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Dating and Relationship Coach
Happy Sunday!
As a further amplification of my Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach post from yesterday about DO Social Networking for enhancing Your Dating Life, tee hee. You DO still need actually to MEET F2F.
So, just like with the Online Dating Sites (either the Free Online Dating sites or the ones where you pay for your membership), the idea is to exchange a few emails and actually...
ARRANGE TO MEET F2F.
Otherwise it is a fantasy and you are wasting your time. I generally recommend about 3-5 emails to connect and segue to Let's Meet. When you live more than 35-50 miles apart, you might email for a bit longer. I'll address that in a forthcoming article at my website. More than about 5 emails and there's something wrong. Sometimes the other party is recently divorcing or divorced and may just be rusty in this area of dating and not know Online Dating Protocol and Online Dating Etiquette (like don't swear in an email to a lady before you meet or I would advise her NOT to meet you! Initially display your gentlemanly behavior. We all burp and expel gas, but let's be gracious and well-mannered, OK? And some of the blue collar men I know who you might THINK this would be more of an issue with are the ones who are MOST gentlemanly with Da Ladies. So, I'm conferring respect to all of you men, here.).
So, be a little forbearing. You may have a diamond in the rough. Remember, dating is to practice your communication skills of what you want and don't want and to practice your skills on How To Flirt? (you ARE flirting, right? OK. Good. phew!).
When my sweet friend Lisa from BabySitting World, Boston's HOTTEST Mom, and yup, sorry guys, MARRIED, doesn't understand how Social Networking would benefit her, well, it may NOT cause she is MARRIED. Of course, if you are PLANNING to go on a date, you might need her free Ebook on what to look for in a Baby Sitter. Do check out her website. This lady is truly an expert and amazing.
But for those of us who are SINGLE, it is a great additional component in your Dating Strategy.
Hope that helps in clarifying things.
For those of us in sales, my guideline about arrange to meet within a few emails, you may notice the Law of Sales Speed being applied here. There is MOMENTUM in Sales. Once there is an INTEREST EXPRESSED, we need to arrange for ACTION NEXT STEPS, not just general phone calls to keep things warm UNTIL there is a project ready. Same thing with Dating. Can you imagine if we said, "well, when you're READY to get married, call me, and we'll go on a few dates THEN!"
Dating is about BEING SEEN and KNOWN and about GETTING READY for a Romantic Relationship.
Enjoy!
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
WOW!
The Stanley Cup is OVER!
Congratulations to the Detroit Red Wings who played a GREAT series.
It's been TWO MONTHS of watching.
And now all the Hockey fans have all that time back in their lives... and perhaps you are .... still single....
And you are wondering, I'm single, I'm one of those singles ... what can I do this weekend to increase my chances to get dates? Or to get MORE dates?
Are you in a fulfilling romantic relationship like the one that you want and deserve? Steve and Sonya, I already know YOUR answers to that question about your joyfully fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationships. TG!
Are you going to be alone yet AGAIN this Friday and Saturday night?
Are you still looking for your Romantic Soul Mate? That special person for you to give your heart to?
Well, you could stay home... alone... AGAIN...
OR
You could GET OUT THERE and go PLACE yourself advantageously to meet other singles like yourself, or perhaps little more different than you so that you foster CHEMISTRY for a feeling of fabulous sexual tension. Marvelous sensation, isn't it?
OK. So you're asking, APRIL! I KNOW you are a great Romance Coach and an expert Online Dating Coach, but what am I to DO? What am I going to DO this weekend to up my chances of meeting other singles.
GO TO A STREET FAIR!
Yes, it's that time of year again.
Street Fairs. They are all over the place. Different ethnic festivals. Chinese. Russian. Italian. Irish. Indian. Japanese. Jewish Festivals. Latino Carnival. You try some different foods. Learn about a culture which is perhaps a bit different than your own. Or is your own and you are one of the ambassadors. Cool, n'est pas?
Doing this will require that you be open to a MultiCultural Dating, Interracial Dating relationship. Of course, where I live, this is like breathing. It's just such a GIVEN.
To find Street Fairs in your area, check out Google, naturally, as well as your local newspaper and alternative newspaper for their Events Calendar.
Part of the fun part of eating at one of these Street Fairs is the very eating of different food offers you a point over which to safely converse with OTHERS. "Oh, wow," sucking in breath, "I've never tasted food so HOT! WOW! Would you please pass me the plain yogurt?" and you have exchanged WORDS. We call that, Starting a Conversation. Now you're rolling!
Enjoy!
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
Yes, NOT to neglect the single men who were like, "Hello, April, what can I do to increase my odds of meeting more women if there are so many MEN in all those business classes?"
Head down the hallway to the arts and crafts rooms.
Or as BabySitting expert Lisa McLellan remarked, "What about all those dance classes that I like to take?"
yup. FILLED with women. LOTS of women. For all those men who write me about how they are in a rut and just are NOT meeting single women or really that MANY single women, arts, crafts, dance classes, etc. are DEFINITELY a great place to work the Law of Large Numbers.
At the end, you just of stroll over to the vending machines, "Hey, can I buy you a bottle of water?" I mean, what women would refuse a bottle of WATER? And it won't break your bank and you've got a convo STARTED.
And that's the point.
When you want further guidance about more specifically HOW after you're meeting more women but not quite converting those to dates, or you're still stuck, well, shoot me a note and check out my services at my website after you've read a number of the articles and we can schedule some one-on-one coaching time. I can be very general here, but to really help you in your individual situation and go through all the nuances of what you need, one-on-one coaching is best. And as we all know, it's the winners in life who hire coaches to succeed even further in life and achieve their goals. I mean, anyone can "Get Married" but how about finding The Best Love Partner for YOU? And to create a GREAT romantic relationship, one you LOVE, and not one that is boring (yawn) or stifling (eek!). I mean, isn't that what you want? A great romantic relationship with a wonderful life partner? I think you deserve THAT, cause marriage lasts a LOOOoooooooooooNG time! You deserve the whole shebang.
All the best and THEN some!
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
OK. For my age demographic, this weekend will NOT be about dating.
Sex In The City, the movie, opens. Sex In The City, Sex In The City Movie
So, gentlemen, go with the Law of Large Numbers.
I will not suggest that you go to a full fledged chick flick. Nor will I ask you to hold my purse at the store. (you might do so while we are at the hospital, but NOT at the store. I'll NEVER ask. Your masculinity is safe with me.)
However, you could, ya know, venture over to the movie theatre, and ah, hang in the lobby. You will SEE and MEET a LOT of women. I know it is harder to move in when we are gaggled en masse. Just, movie theatres will be a great place to go Girl Watching.
And ladies? Where will I be? Not there. First of all, I'd rather wait until after opening weekend when it will be CRAZY. And BESIDES, it's Date Night. I will, naturally be On a Date. Of course, AFTER The Stanley Cup Game 4....
If you are a single lady? I think head out to the sports bars and you will meet a lot more men this weekend because so many women will be at SITC. So, head out early...
Oh, and the Stanley Cup game starts at 8 pm EDT. So, you could head out to the bars a little early..... The men will be watching the games. And you will have LESS competition in The Field because of all the women who will be watching Sex In The City at the theatres.
Have fun and Play Safe!
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach
Hi Folks,
I'll post here way later tonight!
TGIF and have FUN!
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach, Dating Advise and Tips, Internet Dating
Yup. It's that time of month again....
Girls Night Out!
We're going to some wine bar... it'll be good for me to TRY SOMETHING NEW.
All you single men reading this today, getteth thee to a wine bar, and you will probably meet chicks! I mean, women. lol!
OK. Yes, I'm being super brief. Must head out the door for the office.
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
OK, glad a few of you now realize it is a holiday weekend before us.
Please let me know what you each and all are doing in your comment.
For those snarky ones like Public Speaker, Leadership Training, Sales Training Steve Chambers, just know I'll get even later.
Steve, I said NEAR or FAR! (!!!)
Yes, go drive 500 miles.
Or maybe just 25.....
I hear SOOOOOOO often that I am going to have to get UK's expert Hypnotist, my good friend, David Power, lend his professional expertise and co-create a hypnosis CD about just expanding and shifting daters' thinking - "It is POSSIBLE for me to find love. I am OPEN and WILLING to find and create love." You get the idea. I'm serious, of course.
So, the point is ONCE you START DOING, your thoughts and feelings will follow.
So if you are absolutely positively 100% positive you have met EVERYONE in your age demo in your town.
Fine.
That's OK.
Drive 5 miles north.
12 miles west.
7 miles south.
37 miles east.
and do all the ACTIVITIES I have been recommending ON A DAILY BASIS for over 1 month.
Now if you WANT to travel, go talk with my good buddy, The Road Warrrior, Scott Bell, for travel and airline tips.
And I'm not finished yet.
Why?
Because there are still a LOT of singles who don't want to be.
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach, Marketing You Online for business or pleasure!
Another great place to meet people and PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE your social skills including Dressing Up and looking fantastic is to become a Lover...... of The Arts.
In San Francisco all of the Arts Orgs have a Young Professionals affiliated org.
Encore!
Bravo! Club
Symphonix
They host events throughout the year, cocktail parties. These are both FUN and the Arts orgs are worthy of your support and audience development.
Of course, I grew UP with these things growing up near The Met Opera as well as McCarter Theatre which regularly hosted classical music events.
Now, as a glamorous and super sexy lady (Dave Lakhani described me as "Smoking Hot"), I always have a knack for being able to meet man anyway, but I'll just WAVE my red hankie in the face of the single men like John Wadsworth, mortgage, credit, and real estate answers and Matt Shields, The Energy Oracle. Gentlemen, you will meet LOTS of CHICKS. HOT CHICKS, namely well-dresses and really sweet women at these events. Just an FYI if you want to go somewhere a little different to meet women!
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
Somewhere I read, and I'm going to guess from my vague memory (just got in from flying all day, back from Philly, sucking down fluids trying to hydrate, Sue, Baby Steps, Inspirational Lifestyle coaching maven would be smiling to read I'm working on hydrating, I'm sure!) is I heard this from Ginie Polo Sayles.
Go to lunch early.
Aim to go to lunch at 11:30 am.
1. You get a table, the specials of the day are all still fresh and available.
2. It's easier to interact with the people at the other tables when there are only a few of you there. Oh, would you please pass me the salt? Thanks.
Do this in the financial/business district where you work. The executives, sales execs, business owners, ppl who own their own time the most, are more likely to do this, so THAT (ladies AND gentlemen) is whom you are most likely then to meet.
In San Francisco, I loved to doing this at the Belden Lane outdoor seating area. All the tables are so close together that OF COURSE you are meeting and interacting with the others.
In Silicon Valley, go to some of the haunts that are off campus to the big Tech Companies. You will more likely meet executives because it is the employees who are tethered within the velvet prisons of Silicon Valley Campuses.
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
