6 posts tagged “romance tips”
As a Dating and Relationship Coach with a specialty as an Online Dating Coach, I am always seeking to provide a variety of activities to suggest to singles for stretching themselves, breaking out of ruts, and ergo naturally meeting new people.
Indeed, my friend, Craig Ernst, commented on how many married people met their romantic relationship partner via essentially mutual friends. This is quite true. When we are in our 30s and younger, we are generally in social scenarios as a natural consequence of life with our buddies and meeting new people, usually other singles via THEM and their extended network and vice versa.
Well, it's usually single women are ASKING about, "WHERE do I meet more single men?" I think it was Ginie Polo Sayles who I first heard say, and in her sweet, charming, Southern-accented voice, "Why, all around you!" Because it's true. We have these mental filters. I think some of it is we were used to meeting gaggles of single men in one location when were in college - picture fraternity parties, and you'll know immediately what I mean. For those who are reading this who live in non-USA countries, my apologies. I don't know an immediate culturally relevant metaphor to illustrate it for you. But if have ever seen the movie, "Animal House," well, that had LOTS of images of college fraternity parties.
One Place with LOTS of single men.
Well, indeed, college, business school, and Evangelical Bible colleges and seminaries are about the only place for that now.....
And SPORTING EVENTS.
I can think of a few others immediately as well for good place for single women to meet LOADS of men. True, we don't know if they are all single, but you will find LOADs of MEN, MEN, MEN.
As a dating and relationship coach, I would say, that is a target-rich location and leverage it.
Football, baseball, hockey are all underway right now. Go to some games. They can be pee-wee hockey (where is Governor Sarah Palin and her "Hockey Mom" words of wisdom to back me up here?). High school football. Professional baseball. Even going to a sports bar to watch these games can be leveraging the law of large numbers.
Think creatively, get out of the rut you are in, have some fun (!!!), and, yup, get out.
And you are way more likely to meet someone special, get more romantic sex dates, and simply have more fun.
When we are laughing and radiant with happiness, we are magnetically attractive, n'est pas?
All the best,
April Braswell
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
It's election time here in The States, and whatever your voting preferences, getting out (wait! you recognize that theme again from me, don't you?) and assisting with the campaign for
- national
- state
- local
politics means you will meet others!
Now my one really huge and careful caveat is, AVOID going to the opposing camp campaign headquarters. It will just drive both you and them crazy.
Well, even anger is arousal in the brain... so yah never know.
However, I really do suggest you go to the campaign headquarters of candidates you LIKE...
- John McCain and Sarah Palin
- Bacak Obama and Joe Biden
Or, perhaps in the case of the really local politicians, where you probably don't KNOW them all that well, go visit their HQs and meet NEW people.
- Ask the people there all about this politician.
- Consider volunteering....
While you are doing this, you will meet new LOCAL people. Grab a coffee with them. Those you meet at campaign headquarters might become your Autumn romance.... or something more. Who knows, n'est pas?
Be sure to check out my recent addition of an Online Dating Site Review, Internet Dating Site Guide for more ideas about WHERE to meet folks!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Dating and Relationship Coach
WOW!
The Stanley Cup is OVER!
Congratulations to the Detroit Red Wings who played a GREAT series.
It's been TWO MONTHS of watching.
And now all the Hockey fans have all that time back in their lives... and perhaps you are .... still single....
And you are wondering, I'm single, I'm one of those singles ... what can I do this weekend to increase my chances to get dates? Or to get MORE dates?
Are you in a fulfilling romantic relationship like the one that you want and deserve? Steve and Sonya, I already know YOUR answers to that question about your joyfully fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationships. TG!
Are you going to be alone yet AGAIN this Friday and Saturday night?
Are you still looking for your Romantic Soul Mate? That special person for you to give your heart to?
Well, you could stay home... alone... AGAIN...
OR
You could GET OUT THERE and go PLACE yourself advantageously to meet other singles like yourself, or perhaps little more different than you so that you foster CHEMISTRY for a feeling of fabulous sexual tension. Marvelous sensation, isn't it?
OK. So you're asking, APRIL! I KNOW you are a great Romance Coach and an expert Online Dating Coach, but what am I to DO? What am I going to DO this weekend to up my chances of meeting other singles.
GO TO A STREET FAIR!
Yes, it's that time of year again.
Street Fairs. They are all over the place. Different ethnic festivals. Chinese. Russian. Italian. Irish. Indian. Japanese. Jewish Festivals. Latino Carnival. You try some different foods. Learn about a culture which is perhaps a bit different than your own. Or is your own and you are one of the ambassadors. Cool, n'est pas?
Doing this will require that you be open to a MultiCultural Dating, Interracial Dating relationship. Of course, where I live, this is like breathing. It's just such a GIVEN.
To find Street Fairs in your area, check out Google, naturally, as well as your local newspaper and alternative newspaper for their Events Calendar.
Part of the fun part of eating at one of these Street Fairs is the very eating of different food offers you a point over which to safely converse with OTHERS. "Oh, wow," sucking in breath, "I've never tasted food so HOT! WOW! Would you please pass me the plain yogurt?" and you have exchanged WORDS. We call that, Starting a Conversation. Now you're rolling!
Enjoy!
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
Yes, NOT to neglect the single men who were like, "Hello, April, what can I do to increase my odds of meeting more women if there are so many MEN in all those business classes?"
Head down the hallway to the arts and crafts rooms.
Or as BabySitting expert Lisa McLellan remarked, "What about all those dance classes that I like to take?"
yup. FILLED with women. LOTS of women. For all those men who write me about how they are in a rut and just are NOT meeting single women or really that MANY single women, arts, crafts, dance classes, etc. are DEFINITELY a great place to work the Law of Large Numbers.
At the end, you just of stroll over to the vending machines, "Hey, can I buy you a bottle of water?" I mean, what women would refuse a bottle of WATER? And it won't break your bank and you've got a convo STARTED.
And that's the point.
When you want further guidance about more specifically HOW after you're meeting more women but not quite converting those to dates, or you're still stuck, well, shoot me a note and check out my services at my website after you've read a number of the articles and we can schedule some one-on-one coaching time. I can be very general here, but to really help you in your individual situation and go through all the nuances of what you need, one-on-one coaching is best. And as we all know, it's the winners in life who hire coaches to succeed even further in life and achieve their goals. I mean, anyone can "Get Married" but how about finding The Best Love Partner for YOU? And to create a GREAT romantic relationship, one you LOVE, and not one that is boring (yawn) or stifling (eek!). I mean, isn't that what you want? A great romantic relationship with a wonderful life partner? I think you deserve THAT, cause marriage lasts a LOOOoooooooooooNG time! You deserve the whole shebang.
All the best and THEN some!
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
Hi Folks,
I'll post here way later tonight!
TGIF and have FUN!
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach, Dating Advise and Tips, Internet Dating
Yup. It's that time of month again....
Girls Night Out!
We're going to some wine bar... it'll be good for me to TRY SOMETHING NEW.
All you single men reading this today, getteth thee to a wine bar, and you will probably meet chicks! I mean, women. lol!
OK. Yes, I'm being super brief. Must head out the door for the office.
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
