3 posts tagged “peets”

Yup. 

Set the alarm for a DIFFERENT TIME.

I can hear you now,  Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeek!

Ok. so for dating.  for romance.  we need, what?  yes, CHEMISTRY!

In my work as a Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach, as part of the whole strategy I work out with my clients, I do recommend they try some different things to shake things up a bit BECAUSE  our DIFFERENCES foster chemistry.

Soooo, are you an early morning person?

Get up 1 hr later and go for a walk around your hood NOW.  You will run into and be seeing people who get up a bit later than you.

If you are NOT an early morning person (me, me, me!  although, really I can get up at 6 am, but with discipline, then the HABIT resets my internal alarm clock.), set you alarm for 1 hour earlier and get up and go take that same walk.

No do NOT set your alarm clock for 1 hr earlier and then hit the snooze button until it's the same our you normally get up!  (you are wondering, "April, how could think I could do that - [merde, she understands me TOO entirely well!]?" ahhh, cause I've DONE that?  Not the habits I want to establish or model, but I'll just be truthful that I HAVE done this...... )

After your walkies, go to Starbucks or Peets.  You will SEE different people there now than you usually do, don't you?

That is just ONE simple idea.  Do it for 1 week.  Do it for both days on the weekend.  Whatever works.  You WILL see and meet DIFFERENT people than you normally do.

Have fun!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Judy Munroe, Jennifer Skinner, April Braswell

I can already see Steve Chambers, Leadership Training, John Wadsworth, Mr. Mortgage, Credit, and Real Estate Finance, and Tim "Sell or Die" Birch, and maybe even Mr. Energy Man himself, Matthew Shields - Energy Expert, will feel compelled to comment on that title.  Well, it's after midnight, so I was feeling audacious and went ahead and included it.

So, it's Wednesday.

Do you know where your next date is coming from?

Hmmm.

That's why you're here reading all of my tips.

Back to your ROUTINE.

What do you NORMALLY do on YOUR Wednesday?

Coffee?  Try McDonalds instead of Bucks or Peets,

I need to get gas.  I'll use a DIFFERENT station and YUP, I'll get out of my car, did I mention I'll look fabulous?  Hair DONE.  Make up fully on.  Cute colors and businessy.  Go inside.  Pay cash.  Chit chat.  I usually use Valero on El Camino.  Instead I'll use the station on Marsh Road.

Hmmm.  LUNCH TIME!  Well, as a matter of fact, I have an unusual errand I have to run.  PERFECT!  I have to get my fabulous St John's Couture Knit suit blocked and ready for my weekend in Philly with Motivational Speaker, Kevin Hogan. 

The GREAT MALL is a schlep and a half away from my office.  So, I'll head out a little early and get to the mall during peak business.  If I can manage it, I'll even aim to be there a touch early.  I'll run into more MEN that way.  Find something to eat there.  TOTALLY different than my usual lunch.

Notice how this is a GOOD thing?

What are two small things you could do differently today to ensure you are simply MEETING new people?

Post them in the comments section, "April, here's what I'm doing differently today to meet more new people...."  I love hearing the stories.

Of course, Steve is on the road, so he's meeting LOTS of new people.

I just might have a special guest tomorrow if I get to meet our Mystery Man, Success Coach, Yann Vernier.  He'll be in my hood as of tomorrow.  Aren't you CURIOUS to know what he looks like?  I'll take pix!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Thank you to everyone who commented and wrote to me about their praying for Zig Ziglar.  Indeed, he is a living legend and testimony to genuine caring and helping people.  Kinda like someone a number of us here know and love, just ... younger....  (Kevin Hogan - Motivational Speaker, Humanitarian).  Zig's surgery went very well.  Thank you for your prayers.  Everything went according to plan.  Just click that link for Zig's health updates.

So, it is about to become Saturday morning.

GET UP!
GET SHOWERED!
and GET OUT!

Ladies, time and again, I do really really well with meeting MEN early Saturday mornings.  What is it about men that gets them up and at 'em Saturday mornings?  (When I just want to stay in bed, snuggling my pillow, or getting up and leisurely drinking my Peets coffee.  mmmmm.)  But men?  they are UP and OUT!

So ladies, when you are still single, you MUST do this as well and go place yourself sweetly, dressed nicely, yes, you showered and did your make up (lightly, yes?  It is Saturday morning and not time for the ENCORE! gala, right? so, less is more, ok?).

Go get a coffee.

Walk around.

Explore the farmers market.  Go online and find where there are some farmers' markets in your area.

While you are there buying excellent produce, chat people up.  "Oh, are those heirloom tomatoes?  I hear those are the best!  How are some ways I could serve them? You don't say".  The other people at the same vendor booth will also chime in with THEIR recipes.  People are naturally helpful that way.  We are.  You will end up in conversation with a number of people.  Thank them for their great help.  "Oh, really.  That recipe sounds great.  Could you email that to me, please?  Here's my email address."

You do have personal cards right, yes? 

OK, we'll go over those in another blog post.  Just go with it right now.

Take a walk along the hiking trails.  You have your coffee in hand and are walking at an even pace, sipping your coffee.  Just nod, smile, and utter those polite nice little "Hello"s to people you pass .  No need to push yourself upon them.  But you're going to be back here again the same time next week and next.  We become more comfortable with people upon repeated exposure, as Kevin Hogan, PhD, cited in his popular book, Irresistible Attraction.  BE that attractive person they just keep SEEING early every Saturday morning.  Who knows?  Will they talk with you this morning?  Or will you find something to comment about concerning your surrounding to draw them into a short conversation with you. Aim for 2 or 3 sentences only.  If they are interested, they will respond with a few sentences of their own.  If not, only 2 or 3 sentences is simply warm and polite.  You have not thrust yourself upon them.  Smile and wish them a pleasant walk.  If they start to talk with you, SMILE and be light in your responses.

Enjoy the day and your new adventures!

God bless,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

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