18 posts tagged “october 2008”
Another special guest article. It's been a busy week, in case you haven't noticed.
Yup.
It's after 1 am again.
Only reason I'm not out on a date is that I am at a speaker/presentations skill class training.... near Las Vegas. So, well, when I was in the bar last night ordering my Mandarin Cosmo (really quite yummy I might add), I did have... options. Just, I was there for a different purpose. Well, now that didn't prevent me FLIRTING a little while I was there.
I kept my mental focus on what was the purpose for why I was there - to HANG with the others.
And what about you? How is your dating mentality? How is you dating mental fitness? Well, just bop on over to the latest special guest article at my website: The Right State of Mind: Mental Fitness and
Dating
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Expert, Single Women over 40 Dating and Relationship Coach
I have a new article up at my website from special guest fitness author.
Single Dating - The Perfect Meeting Place
Now, what is interesting is, I have heard some dating and relationship experts like myself recommend casually interacting at athletic clubs and fitness centers as great places for singles to meet and possibly date. And then, because there wouldn't be a Presidential Election if there weren't some differences of opinion, there are those who totally recommend against any kind of flirting at the gym.
Well, do what you want.
but me?
I like to see, how/where have ACTUAL people met their spouses? Real people (don't you feel like a reality based tv ad).
Darryl Pace?
he actually MET his wife at... the gym.
Now myself? well, one of the topics I cover with my clients is how active you are and what athletic activities might you want to share doing?
yes, beyond the obvious one....
Hiking. I LOVE hiking. I actually do this often. I WANT really really WANT to be in a relationship with a man who wants to hike WITH me. And might even hike more and better than I do.
Or, and uh, who likes Ordinance. (if you know to what I am referring, you match, if you don't just glaze over that term and don't worry).
So, check out the article. AND get OUT and do what YOU love to do and think about about... what of THESE activities do I want to SHARE with my romantic mate? life partner, spouse, wife, husband
And keep an open mind about precisely where you will meet them!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Expert, Dating and Relationship Coach
Greetings from the road.
again
I know.
it's crazy. but there were some opportunities I just had to avail myself and couldn't pass by.
THis evening over dinner, the young man who sat next to me was wanting my suggestions and advise as a late 20s/early 30s single man wanting to date and looking to marry.
First we talked about...
what do you want (that was almost wad do you want...) with singles dating?
He wants to marry.
He asked me about how important is sexual romantic attraction, chemistry?
and how important is compatibility?
He is a VERY intelligent and analytical man. More of an engineering sort of a background. WE laughed a little when I said it is not precise mathematical formula (70/30. 68/32) or something.
But that indeed BOTH are importnat.
I did stress that he would do best to FIRST look at and write out WHAT DO YOU WANT in that romantic love long term relationship which he wants to have be marriage.
He said he didn't actually really know.
PRecisely.
Hence on of the very reasons to go dating.
both to PRACTICE and FINE TUNE your romantic love communication skill set.
The other is to TEST THE WATERS.
what do I want in a love relationship?
waht do I NOT want?
Many single will post online dating profiles at the internet personals websites and jump into casual dating sort of WANTING to get married. But they haven't thought out, What do I want/not want?
When it is best to FIRST outline for oneself about what you want/don't want.
AND THEN go on dates.
DATING for singles is that very process of working out the details and fine tuning it.
Happy dating and relationships.
All the best,
April Braswell
If your business life is anything like mine, especially right now, perhaps you are starting to look a bit.. pudgy and puffy.
TRAVEL!
Now if you ARE traveling a lot for business or pleasure, you will want to hop on over to Road Warrior- Travel Reviews from Scott Bell, aka The Road Warrior. This man traveled more than 250 DAYS last year. 250 DAYS! He knows everything, all the extra nuances you might not, ok, well probably aren't even thinking of. Check out his website for extra info and read his blog here at VOX where you can ask him your travel questions: The Road Warrior, Vox Blog And he'll address them, YES, from the road! Yes, and you can SO tell, I LOVE Vox. I use a number of Blog resources within Social Media, and Vox is one of my top favorites.
So, now that I am back from 3 trips in a row with another one ahead of me (Fred's spkg seminar), I'm looking pudgy and puffy.
Puffy: easy to address. Drink LOTS of water today. Not to mention, I'll take a page from the book of Organic Love maven herself, Anamari, Organic Resources. And yes, Chef Jenya, of all things Raw Foods Resources, Raw Food Resources and Essential Energy Cuisine, it will be raw food I'll be eating a lot of. I'm thinking of lots of organic mixed greens to nutrient stuff myself.
Then I'll be following the advise of my latest guest author, Darryl Pace, and follow what he is recommending to singles dating, whether we met from Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Resources or via traditional means. Here's his article, the latest contribution up at my website: A Wonderful Couple: Fitness and Dating
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Dating Expert
Yup
12 hours at Newark airport.
and I couldn't get the wireless to STAY connected for more than about 3 mins at a time.
Home. desperately in need of sleep.
However, did want to bop over and give a quick update that I'm back home and more later.
Yup. too funny. My 7 am flight out of Newark, the man next to me saw the book I was reading which I got while at Motivational Speaker, Kevin Hogan' Wealth Camp.
what do you do?
what do you sell?
welllll, "I'm an Online Dating Coach, Relationship Coach for women over 40..."
he loved it. Got trashed and sort of falling all over me in a tight space, so I got to practice my feminine declaration of clear boundaries. :D It was quite funny.
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Romance Coach
Naturally, where ever I go, men, men, men... ;)
Yup
I landed in Newark airport Friday.
Now the thing is, I'm not a typical tourist.
You see, I grew up in this State and NY was THE CITY to me.
So, I'm rusty on current nuances.
But I'm no country hick.
I know the hustles done here.
I got my luggage from baggage claim and was walking purposefully.
Men in uniforms started approaching me, looking meaningfully at me, seeking to make significant eye contact with me.
"Taxi lady?"
"Taxi?"
The thing is, I'm no hick and I KNOW that THOSE uniforms mean they are "Car" or "Livery" drivers. They are not taxi drivers. They are not under the same regulations and FARE regulations. No medallions.
I laughed.
Yeah right!
as if!
I could have gone with them, but my fare could have been much much more than the amount regulated for the zone in NJ to which I was going.
Good thing I KNEW.
So, even as a dating and relationship expert where I am used to men finding me very attractive (blonde hair, curves in right places..... who could blame them?), not all who pursue me are QUALIFIED.
These men? Disqualified!
Me?
I went to the taxi stand where 2 lovely men helped with the new zone prepay process with set rates on the wall so I KNEW.
wasn't that lovely of them to assist a lady from out of town?
And I got to my hotel paying just THE RIGHT amount.
Are your dates qualified?
or disqualified?
do you want the same things in your romantic sex relationship?
life partner/no marriage?
marriage?
more children?
world travel
business ownership?
be sure to ask and qualify
so you don't get taken for a ride....
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Romance Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites ReviewWell, after having met Fred Gleeck at Motivational Speaker, Business, Education Kevin Hogan's fabulous Wealth Camp last week, I am traveling to Northern NJ tomorrow. Or, as we who are FROM there can say, "Scenic fill in the blank NJ town." In this case, Scenic Saddlebrook.
So, I will be spending LOTS of time in airports in the next few days.
and will be slow to get to your blogs, but will catch up MONDAY PDT afternoon at the latest....
well. AIRPORT FLIRTING
what FUN
Now, my good buddy, Scott Bell, aka The Road Warrior - Scott A. Bell (please update your website to reflect THAT website of his) could tell me everything about airport travel.
which airports have the best connectivity etc, free wifi that is really free
Both Las Vegas and San Jose had truly FREE wifi that also worked well
well, while I am hangin at the airports, my first step in being ready for good AIRPORT FLIRTING is in
selecting a cute AND comfy for air travel outfit
I will even wear SKIRTS in order to LOOK more fabulous
and indeed, my skirts are pretty comfy, too.
and then
Make Up
now the funny thing and the joke about actually WEARING make up while doing air travel is it won't last more than a few hours (foundation) because of how we sweat with the dry air blowing.
So, put a compact to powder your nose and stow breath mints in your purse.
Now, one of my favorite places to flirt is at an airport bar.
best to sit on a stool sort of In the Middle
that way the men (oh, did I mention I'm always positioning myself next to at least ONE man? mhm.. more fun that way, n'est pas. that was for Success and Life Coaching Expert, UK Yann Vernier, whom some of you met in Vegas)
Now, I am dressed in a cute/sexy way and am sitting next to them. I'm blonde and the curves ARE in the right places, smile, make eye contact (that's the Reading Body Language Expert part of the equation), smile, sip drink. Before you know, the man will say SOMETHING to me. Why? because I'm flirting with him. Body Flirting with him. That is FEMININE/Yin flirting where we are visually displaying our availability and responsiveness to him and engaging his eyes.
Man in Yang energy will SPEAK first. then we respond. Doesn't matter WHAT we say does it? "Oh really? Where are you headed? Are you going for business or for pleasure?" then, yes, close mouth (yes, I do practice that one....) and LISTEN. Smile. Look. Smile. "Mmmmm. Really?"
Meanwhile my Body Language Flirting is going on. I'm doing feminine curvilinear postures, not masculine/straight on, squared shoulders authority postures.
Insert batting of eyelashes....
and then I'm off to my flight
but in the meantime?
I did AIRPORT FLIRTING and practiced and communicated the sexy compliment that I found him attractive as a man without actually needing to DO anything more.
fabulous
go forth and BODY FLIRT!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Romance Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites ReviewThere are 2 dirty little secrets to Online Dating Sites.
For the men?
Apparently on some of the premier online dating sites, the women? are professionals. They are prostitutes/hookers.
And for both men and women?
People flake and stand you up and think nothing of it.
Now, I'm not talking about like when my dad died and I wrote and canceled all of my pipeline. There was one guy with whom I had a Date0 scheduled for the evening he died and I think he hadn't yet given me his cell number. I wrote him a note and explained WHY. he seemed to understand and not take it as, "oh they'll use ANY excuse not to actually MEET!"
However, this is definitely an issue.
Being stood up.
My drinks date tonight?
Simply never called with the location after setting the day/time/date.
To me, it's rude, of course, but whatever. he's a complete stranger. What do I know what is going on in his life?
My lunch went splendidly, thank you very much. But that's another story. I kiss and tell only to buds on the phone, not to the WORLD in my Vox blog. Perspective and discretion. Of course, I DO bring that same discretion to my work as an Online Dating Expert and Relationship coach.
So, what're you to do with being stood up?
NEXT!
Be sure to keep your dating pipeline full, so frankly, you DO have a NEXT already established.
Oh NO. I know some people who will email and text forever before they meet F2F, and feel THIS is THE ONE, my soulmate. I'm in love and ready for sex asap, and are practically planning the wedding for their marriage... Only to find when they meet? No chemistry. Zilch. Zip. None. No. Nada.
So, YES, DO go on LOTS of dates until you are ready to be in the committed romantic sex relationship you both WANT and negotiate for it!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Romance Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
The latest member to our team, Phil Graves, Consumer Behaviour Expert from the UK, lends his expertise to Online Dating.
Here's his latest article up at my website as a special guest author contribution:
Singles Dating - Shopping for Love with Online
Dating
Myself? As an Online Dating Expert, part of what I uniquely bring to the picture of the Dating and Relationship coaching I provide my select clients is I'm single and dating, too. yup, single. looking for a romantic sex life partner or marriage? I'm in there with you. Indeed, most of my clients are women over 40, that's really my primary niche. But I do work with other age groups and men upon special request.
Me? I have 2 dates this week, but that's only because I'm flying out to Northern Jersey Friday for the weekend. Come to think of it. If I'm flying out, I might as well schlep it into The City and visit my FAMILY! (NYC sister, also beautiful)
Thinking and typing clearly being my forte....
I'll let you know how the dates go....
One man is HIGHLY intrigued to meet me because I cite myself as "conservative" and am apparently the only one in our demographic here in Silicon Valley doing so! eeeee. Him? He's an SBO (not SOB...). And I have laryngitis. So I will REALLY get a chance to practice demonstrating my early dating YIN behavior. (Jenn understands that one.)
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Romance Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
Hi from Las Vegas.
Just a quick note.
I'm at Motivational Speaker, Business, Education Kevin Hogan's Wealth seminar here at the Luxor.
I wanted to make a special guest (sort of that oooh, ahh, mystery date thing being continued...),
www.philipgraves.net
understanding consumer behavior. what a fascinating and captivating topic? tee hee. Yes, very much like, dating, romance, sex, and love, so I'm definitely intrigued. et vous?
Phil Graves is with us from the UK.
I am looking forward to becoming acquainted with him and his expertise in the coming days and weeks.
It's interesting how Phil Graves has an expert focus on understanding consumer behavior, because, indeed, as part of my work as an Online Dating Coach and Romantic Relationship coach, my clients and I collaborate to look at and better understand who it is they most want to target. The better you can understand the motivations of men - what most captivates their interest, and yes, sex appeal is essential, and what captures a woman''s attention, then you can best position yourself to get more dates and create successful long term romantic sexual relationships.
have a fabulous evening!
Welcome aboard, Phil!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Romance Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
