23 posts tagged “nov”
Yup. By the time most of you read this blog post, it will actually BE December 1st. Which means it is time to start your Christmas Shopping in case you have not already.
And what will be at the top of your list? for yourself?
Love?
a romantic sex relationship of your dreams?
to get married in 2009?
A sweetheart for the holidays?
To get more dates?
well, while you are actually OUT AND ABOUT for all of your Christmas shopping, remember to FLIRT!
You will need to keep your eyes peeled and actually LOOK AROUND you. but seriously, while you are Christmas shopping, you will be exposed to so many NEW people, do not neglect YOURSELF and your romantic love life.
When you are shopping for others and are out and about in new venues, slow down, breath, flirt and look about you to see who else is there. You never know, they might be your next DATE!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Expert, Romantic Relationship Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
It's too funny. At this time of year I get a lot of those iVillage and South Beach Diet sort of emails with headlines all addressing, "What to do with all of those Thanksgiving Leftovers...."
Do you get any emails like that in your email box?
It's probably a bit more of a chick thing. Indeed, as an Online Dating Coach, I am an Online Dating Expert and my primary niche of clients is women over 40 (sometimes it's mid-30s, it just depends). So, my sharing their Chick focus in life works out just fine.
Well, in my family, we LOVE the Thanksgiving Turkey STUFFING! In some parts of the world, "Stuffing" is known as "Dressing." Same thing. We're good. Well.... we NEVER have problems with leftovers. We LOVE the Turkey. We will eat open faced Turkey sandwiches with gravy and whatever side dishes are available for the next 4 or five meals. Lunch. "Did you want the same thing for dinner?" "YES!"
As my brother and I are packing and getting ready to get back on the road (McDonald's has REALLY good coffee, which is readily available along Highway 5 - THANK GOD!), we are being offered another round of, YES! Turkey sandwiches to take on the road with us.
We have not yet started sprouting pinfeathers, so we are still DELIGHTED to eat those fresh roast Turkey sandwiches.
Now mind you, but dinner tonight, I'll be interested in ANOTHER food group. Even this morning we had scrambled eggs with stuffing (yes, it is REALLY good). A variation on the leftovers without itself being the Turkey.
By the end of the bird, we would make some last scraps of the meat dish like a Turkey Curry (I know, some gringo anglo version, but we actually grew up with that in the days before all those ingredients being available at Safeway because my parents were buds with an Indian couple, or where one of them was Indian, when my dad was in grad school at Yale. You expanded you food repertoire with the Eatz from the other grad schools couples.). Last legs (thighs, breasts and wings....)? Stew it to make Turkey SOUP which freezes well so you have fabulous HOME MADE Turkey soup throughout the winter.
What I sort of noticed with the dating scene was that many of us singles gave over the Day of Thanksgiving to our families. Text messages, with only little bits of flirtation, were exchanged on Thanksgiving.
And then Friday, aka Black Friday, and after that poor man's death in the stampede (idiots!) at Long Island Wal*Mart, Black Friday will always be truly Black to me. Well, yesterday, the singles all started to warm up again. Drinks dates for Sunday? are being arranged.
We are all feeling the need to go out and walk, hit the gyms, and hike now that the Turkey leftovers are dwindling.
In the States, this is still such a low-key 4 day weekend. I won't whump you upside the head. I do have a 20s something male client whom I have to craft and email homework to. However, as with all the clients who apply whom I actually accept, he is motivated and promises to DO his homework, not just "try." (Yes, we had a little Yoda discussion there...)
If you are single, do SOMETHING this weekend. Something low-key is fine. SOMETHING low-key to meet more singles and expand your social circle.
And then tell me what it is.... (no grading system, just Pass/Fail, rinse, repeat)
And have fun.
Then next week, the Thanksgiving Turkey Leftovers will have passed, and we will return to The Beef in your Dating Planning.
Or as those ads sad in the 1980s, "Where's the Beef?"
No worries. I won't ask you that question until MONDAY. You have the whole weekend to enjoy your Turkey Leftovers first.
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Expert, Romantic Relationship Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
I want to keep this brief.
The best advise I can give you today for your dating and romantic sex relationship life?
Have a very Happy Thanksgiving!
It's the first Thanksgiving without anyone from the older generation from my bloodline side of the family.
Our first Thanksgiving without our father. And we loved him, but sometimes at this time of the year, he was a PITB. family can be like that. It's part of the deal. And we LEARN to deal with it. Being imperfect, a PITB, and still CHOOSING to love someone. It's a great skill set for committed love relationships and marriage. (Not that I'm saying never divorce, but you know there are days, weeks, months, where, we or they are.. unlovely and we still CARE and love them. Cause man, they need it! lol!)
So God brought in a relative I never thought I would meet. Because to her I and we on our side of the family represented all she hated, well, at least SOME of what she hated in her divorce from my late uncle. And yet, all of this was indeed, years ago. And now, well, we were doing the cooking!!!! (OK, so my darling sister Diane did all the cooking, my brother and I simply GOT ourselves there.) My aunt Irene.
And my beautiful cousin Barbara? Former model, MBA, sweet feminine lady, single....? Looks just like her mother.
So, we got to meet, share food (OK, so fantastic food, my sister Diane, the cook, Vassar Woman, JD cum laude ...) and be a family.
Now, we are slugging on the couch. Reading. Blogging. Sipping wine. Eating MORE pie....
The good things in life.
That is another reason WHY it matters to go date to create the great long lasting love relationships you crave.
Yes, sex (can I hear an Amen?). And sweetness. Tenderness.
Love.
That's why we do it.
Happy Thanksgiving
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Romantic Relationship Coach
OK, so the idea that you are traveling today and tomorrow presupposes (where is my good buddy The Communication Expert who provides SUPERB definition and explanations of that statement?) you live in or are visiting The United States to celebrate the USA's Thanksgiving holiday.
So what does that have to do with dating and creating a great life partner/marriage romantic sex relationship?
Nothing and everything.
Many of the singles (Singles - Never Married, Divorced, Widow/ered) who are in the state of Non-dating mode right now don't SEE the singles around them. Quite often there is a perspective in their minds that there is A PLACE where they will meet - and only there - Other Eligible singles. Indeed the Internet Personals Sites Guide, Online Dating Sites Review I have at my website can arm you with SEVERAL top quality and diverse internet personals dating sites.
However, as you travel, you will have many people all around you whom you would not normally be meeting.
Keep your eyes open.
While my good buddy, The Road Warr4ior- Travel Reviews will provide you with security line tips - and with the most traveled days in the US being this week, you'll want EVERY advantage at your disposal. While you are there at the airport, whether it is parking your car (OK, so the lots were probably all already full yesterday, however, I'm following the logical course of activities you will be doing, so work with me here, OK?) and then riding in the shuttle bus, getting your boarding pass, checking your bag (s), navigating the security line, getting your coffee and food at the food courts. And then WAITING for your flight (you gave yourself PLENTY of extra time, yes? Phew. OK, good.).
There will be people all around you.
Smile.
Breath.
Be pleasant.
Chat them up slightly.
Have a cocktail at the bar.
Drink you coffee and chat up the people while you stir in the half-and-half
Help the ladies lift their bags into the overhead - you've been manly. Not only will SHE be grateful (if not, sigh, yes, she's a clod, perhaps she had other things on her mind?) but OTHER women will notice it and note YOU as a gentleman - distinguishing yourself immediately from the herd like my good buddy Steve Chambers inculcates for at Sales and Leadership Training.
Or maybe your travels are closer to home and it's only in your car that you will be traveling.
Perhaps to the Safeway to purchase some half-and-half for the coffee for the family?
You KNOW why everyone ELSE is there at the store today? to get ready for Thanksgiving. THAT is your Conversation starter. As you wait for the other person to close the dairy fridge door, utter something like, "I have to pick up some extra half-and-half so there's enough for everyone! Here, let me hold the door for you...." Then just smile pleasantly at them and wish them "Happy Thanksgiving!" They might respond and say something, or maybe they will just SMILE. When they smile, ask them, "Oh, you too? Stocking up before company arrives?"
If you've been implementing my easy dating tips from this blog for the past 6 months, you are already an easy conversationalist, able to pass pleasantries with strangers, briefly, pleasantly, leaving conversational doors open to converse for 3-5 sentences. Or let the conversation end at 3-5 sentences. It's all ok with you. You're just blithely in your style (mine is lively, vivacious, sparkling through life...) moving through life.
And while you are traveling, look around you. Other eligible singles? They are all around you. Talk to them. Who knows, you might meet your future husband or wife that way...
All the best,
April Braswell
When we pursue Online Dating with single using the internet personals, most often we are doing so to find love with PRECISELY where WE are now.
And I have to say in my early 30s in the EARLY Neanderthal days of Internet Personals and finding love online, that's what we did.
yes, those were THE DARK AGES before we could attach jpegs, pix of us, to our Online Dating Profiles. Really, those WERE blind dates. But indeed, by doing so, we got LOTS of good practice and really DID only meet for coffees and drinks for Date0.
Then we all got SO serious.
I must find THE ONE. So much pressure.
And then I remember seeing the cute Romantic Comedy, "Must Love Dogs." Now, this is not THE GREATEST movie out there. And in some ways, I prefer, "The Shop Around the Corner" 3rd remake with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan for displaying the early days of Online Dating which started really in chat rooms. In "Must Love Dogs," Stockard Channing's character is the one to watch to LEARN something.
She was using DIFFERENT Online Dating Sites to post DIFFERENT and I mean REALLY different profiles with the Internet Personals. Like in one she was a Country Western lover, another a Bibliophile. Etc. TOTALLY different personas. And she made some point about how doing so allowed her to explore and fulfill DIFFERENT ASPECTS of HER PERSONALITY.
She was EXPLORING and treating life, love, sex, and romance as an adventure.
Isn't that how you want to approach life? As an adventure to be LIVED?
So, go out and follow suit.
Try something REALLY different that is within YOU.
Explore a facet of yourself that you would love to surface. And by doing so, you will increase the likelihood of meeting INTERESTING people whom you want to be friends and lovers with. And THOSE are the ones you will want to spend your life with.
And have FUN!
All the best,
April Braswell
Hi! I have a new Body Language Flirting article up at my website from special guest author, Lena Milukh addressing the topic of how singles can use body language on Date0 to arouse and stimulate romantic thoughts and feelings in the opposite sex. Check it out and let me know what you think.
How To Use Body Language to Arouse Romantic Mood in a Man you Like and Make Him Stay with You?
All the best,
April Braswell
Why are you doing it?
In this week ahead as we in the States prepare to celebrate and travel to Thanksgiving, typically with our families, reflect upon, WHY are dating? While you are traveling, always check out Road Warrior- Travel Reviews for the latest in travel tips.
What undergirds WHY I do this is my passion to help people create truly intimately connecting relationships.
It's for the sake of the relationship. Not just to GET married and meet a perfect person (then why would they want us? and imperfect person! lol!). To learn to appreciate another and to connect with them through communication, and sex is a subset (sensual communication) of that.
With dating, we are seeking to create truly wonderful passionate and genuine romantic sex relationships - with a Life Partner as my friend, sales leadership and businessman, aka The Bold Calling, SteveChambers so desires. Or for long lasting love within the context of marriage
As you are preparing to create that great romantic love relationship, if you are single, you might want to leverage the perspective of Pure Numerology for Love and Romance from Australia's leading numerology expert, John Ho. His passion and enthusiasm for his subject and his ability to implement, implement, and implement will propel you forward in your endeavors. (And should you be in the market for Australian real estate, well, he can help you with that, too! If you're in The States, check with RealEstateSuccessPath)
Once armed with your numerology information, you will start to date and date MORE certainly if you are reading and implementing my LOADS of easy dating tips. Then as you prepare to head out on all those dates, Stylista and Wardrobe Wise minimalist with an eye for QUALITY (because she is quality herself, as well, as a pocket sized Venus) Wardrobe Stylist, Jennifer Skinner, will provide you with wardrobe wisdom for how to dress to impress... the opposite sex.
While you are dressing yourself externally, you will want to reflect upon and meditate upon your INNER ROMANCE leveraging the Intuitive gifts of JohnWShoemaker aka Intuitive John Shoemaker. And prepare your unconscious mind for love and romantic success, Expert in Hypnosis, Success Thinking and Practical Parenting. Additionally, while you dress, you will want to put body language expertise into your tool kit leaning upon the body language wisdom from THE Reading Body Language Expert, Kevin Hogan, as well as Relationship Sales Maven, CindyEyanson and the woman who has ALL of your body parts' body language covered, Lena Milukh. Additionally, so you can SPEAK the language of love and actually reach across the abyss into another's experience, you will want lean upon the communication for relationships, THE Communication Expert, DavidJParnell.
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Then be thankful.
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Jeremiah 29:11
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Expert, Romance Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
Do you even know what Hockey IS?
I'm teasing you all here, because in my family's life, we LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE ice hockey.
I know of married couples where the hockey fan made a point of gently introducing Hockey LOVE to the prospective spouse. Gently inculcated for it during the courtship.
And God still has a sense of humor, because my brother's fiance? Doesn't like hockey. We are all OK with that... so long as she understands we are GLUED to the tube during Stanley Cup playoffs.
"Honey, I know we said we were going to to dinner at 8 pm. However, we just entered the second period of sudden death overtime...."
We do not expect spouses to understand that statement completely. We just need to communicate that THAT IS a sufficient excuse to eat a later dinner.
Now, of course, the fact that we are all together DOES mean we can be trusted, there is no one else.
Only Lord Stanley!
Now, what about YOU?
What is one of YOUR passions? Let's be real, your sports passion which you are hoping your future spouse will share with you? or at least will put up with?
Screen for that during early dates. Drop those words casually into singles dating conversations. With your online dating sites profile for internet personals, include those in your KEY WORDS or Hot Lists.
Yup
I have hockey in mine. Now, not all of my dates LOVE hockey. But they are NOT surprised to hear I love it. Truth in advertising, because I mentioned it early!
Have fun and play safe!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Relationship Coach
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
Hi. Much of what my focus for this blog vs. my website is to share a TON of ideas about WHAT to do to MEET more people, especially singles, so you can....
Get More Dates
And I have to say, I am a big proponent of on Date0 when single men and single women who have met via Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review that we meet for drinks and apps, namely drinks and appetizers. However, this is merely that, a guideline, a strong suggestion. The other thing is for women who want to be the YIN energy in the romantic sex relationship, that we FOLLOW THE MAN's LEAD for the date. So, I am inculcating for, let HIM choose and suggest WHERE to GO and WHAT to DO, especially for the first few dates.
Then, like with dancing West Coast Swing (The official Dance of the State of California!), once you have established your dancing rapport as a couple, every once in awhile as part of what is FUN and FLIRTATIOUS.... you SWITCH and exchange the lead. After you have been on several dates, the lady can express and ask for more what SHE might be interested in doing on the date. That is switching the lead. However, then GIVE IT BACK to him with that marvelous, treat him like The Respected Man phrase, "...what do you think?" (insert feminine batting of eyelashes)
Pause
Wait
LISTEN for his response
So, with my date last night which WAS a Date0, we had spoken a few times on the phone, had flirted extensively (no surprise there since I was one of the people on the phone....), he invited me out for dinner and a movie. Which meant ACTUALLY more pressure. I actually would have FELT better if we had just met for drinks, had surging chemistry, and then arranged for another date for the dinner and movie thing. But I was OK with his agenda (nothing morally wrong with it). So I did the feminine thing of RECEIVE RECEIVE RECEIVE and thanked him.
He also HAD ALREADY been doing his advance field recon, like the scouts, and knew a few different few types which I enjoy. (Thai, Indian, Chinese) Asked me which of those I would enjoy. I lobbed the lead then back to him after stating (gasp) my opinion and LET HIM LEAD with selecting WHICH restaurant to go to.
Men ENJOY that SMALL research challenge. Some women will lob them some giant challenge, which indeed some men enjoy, however, it can really be OBNOXIOUS. So, I generally suggest refraining from presenting TOO LARGE a challenge to a man until AFTER he has met you and knows he WANTS to pursue you.
Bless his masculine heart which wants to PLEASE the woman he is with, he'd already been ASKING ME about
what kind of food I enjoyed eating
what sort of movies I enjoyed
In truth, I enjoy a variety and expressed that and only voiced really one kind of movie I DON'T enjoy - horror film slashers. I vaguely recall I had admired the new Jame Bond film, and he did suggest that. However, if he'd invited me to something else, I would have GLADLY gone.
Now we are contemplating ANOTHER activity which is about sharing life STUFF.
I actually LOVE hiking.
He'd already, yup, again, been gathering field recon about this. "April, what do you enjoy doing? in your free time? outside of work?"
yeah, well, blogging my brains out apparently! lol!
However, when I get OUT of the house, I LOVE to go hiking, bicycling, movies, and dancing.
All of which make for GOOD STORIES for conversations.
And ACTIVITIES for other dates.
So, we're looking at Hiking for tomorrow.
Now, bless his heart, he is enjoying the masculine research and recon: WHERE TO GO hiking!?
I'm reminded of some of the very very good material from the dating classic, The Rules.
It's in there somewhere. Essentially the authors pointed out, don't ROB the man of the masculine JOY of doing his recon and pursuit behavior. John Gray talks about this as well. A masculine YANG man is wanting to PLEASE his lady. His efforts are like his war spoils. The KILL from the hunt. Our 21st century society offers men so FEW opps to preset his lady fair with his spoils for her to admire.
For God's sake, let him PRESENT you with a few displays of his masculine prowess outside of the bedroom and ADMIRE and EXTOL it!
It's like the animals who present their kill as an offering to their mate.
"Here honey, this wanga beast, it's FER you!"
"Oooo, Reginald, it's LOVELY! You are so strong, valiant, diligent, and discerning to have brought that to me."
And here are two magic words which are "The Secret" to creating masculine love for his woman, a piece of "The Glue" which will hold your romantic relationship together, a Best Practice you can PRACTICE DAILY with every man you meet about SOMETHING he does for you....
"Thank You."
Gaze upon him admiringly (like you just squeezed his biceps or shoulders, nice aren't they?).
Smile softly.
"Thank You."
You are now the feminine balm to his masculine soul.
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach, Relationship Coach
Hey. Yup, as an Online Dating Coach and Online Dating Expert, I TOO.. date.
Today?
I am doing more Field Recon.
Which means I have a date with a man I met, yes, via Online Dating Sites. For some good ideas of some great sites: Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
What am I wearing? Whenever I possibly can (depending on the activity for the date which the gentleman selects...), I wear a skirt/dress for a Date 0. (First F2F date in OLD'g speak)
I want to create as much visual CONTRAST with his masculinity.
Now, if, bless his heart, he were taking me to an NHL San Jose Sharks Hockey game, indeed, I WOULD wear jeans. With cute heels, of course!
The very fact that I am in there WITH them is part of my uniqueness as an Online Dating Coach and Relationship Coach. I'm in the thick of it with you AND am a trained expert in this, bringing expertise in relationships, persuasion, and influence to the table as well.
Tonight? din dins and James Bond.
All the best,
April Braswell
