39 posts tagged “love”
Well, today will NOT be one of my more creative Easy Dating Tips blog posts. Just a quick note from SoCal.
Invested a DAY with my sis and my cousin. Invested in RELATIONSHIP TIME.
Just a quick thought if my brain can formulate and articulate this after a full day.....
RELATIONSHIP SKILLS are indeed, yes RELATIONSHIP SKILLS
For clients wanting to work with me as their dating and relationship coach, it's not that I push Online Dating Coach as like the ONLY piece of their Dating Marketing Strategy as part of my Relationship Coach expertise. I actually spend a lot our initial working time on checking in with THEM and what THEY want. Where are you in your dating? No judgements (soooo no judgements, please just TELL me....) - how many dates have you been on .... in the last month? last 6 months? Last year? Just ball parking is fine. I'm trying get a feel for THEM and to know how best to coach THEM. Where are we starting and what do we need to do? Yes, I often hear the RESULT they want, but I need to know where they are really NOW so we can get there, ok?
So, Relationship Skills in one area DO indeed correlate to good communication, negotiation, and relationship skills in another.
One important aspect is... how important is HAVING relationships to you in your life? Sometimes we say and think it's really important, and then reflect on how close we are say, with family members. And remember, relationships, repeat after me... take WORK. (insert cuss word of choice to vent how you think and feel about THAT one, but it's true. And as we mature, indeed, we all KNOW that.)
If I find myself alone a lot, how can I reach out to OTHERs more and more deeply? Do I call them only when I need something? Or am I checking in with them to make things happen for our friendship myself? Am I inviting them to have brunch or breakfast with me on the weekends? Do we have bizarre schedules (I had a journalist buddy who worked some STRANGE hours. Ok, so we didn't get to see each other F2F for a few months, but phone calls and emails were exchanged, and I just kept inviting my buddy for coffee, drinks, whenever it works for you, and now schedules are shifted, and we're seeing each other again. PERSIST. Persist in showing that you CARE and WANT to make an effort to BE IN A RELATIONSHIP/FRIENDSHIP with them.)
Kevin Hogan, Motivational Speaker, Education/Business, well, God bless him, we've both noticed that EACH of us and the OTHER... is a RELATIONSHIP oriented person. Thank GOD he likes this about me, because, oye, it is SO the case with me. Well, or we wouldn't be friends and would simply drive each other crazy. In business, really, it's a lot more enjoyable and indeed PROFITABLE to work with people we are on some level... friends with. Where we ENJOY the relationship. And indeed in romantic sex life partner relationships, yes, fabulous sex IS fabulous sex... however, I am always pointing out to clients, do you want to TALK with this person for the next 10+ years? If not, then not. Yes, in Romantic Sex Relationships we want COMPANIONSHIP, friendship.
But if it's ONLY friendship and no toe-curling, eek. That's not going to work either.
Well, on the concept of my BEING a Relationship Person and being known and noted for it.... So much so, that, well, I do certain things that will ENSURE success for people I care about. I'll stay on them, follow-up, and also work with THEIR life realities and THEIR goals, not just mine for them. Yes, I want them to do really well, but maybe THIS is the year for them to dedicate themselves to building their businesses and NEXT year will be the one for RELATIONSHIP HUNTING. Of course, the former is a superb foundation for the later. Build good business relationships, and you will know, experience and LIVE the skills and life for a better ROMANTIC relationship.
And other sweeties, well, they are FT wives and moms. And hello, laundry must still be done, the food shopping, and the are not going to have the same TIME to devote to business goals as I have. So, I support them in THEIR goals and shine light on how THEY can do what they want to do, and even work up a focused daily task list which is realistic FOR THEM to do. (ah, not mine, they'll just start laughing....)
and you're probably thinking.... heyyyyyyy, those are... COACHING SKILLS.
Precisely.
So, what are YOUR goals?
What are your RELATIONSHIP goals? both romantic, and maybe some filial relationships....
Because, indeed, in the end, the love you make is equal to the love you take.
Make sure you are GIVING a lot of it. Frankly, it's just MORE FUN to do so. And OYE, it is SO about the fun, is it not?
All the best,
April Braswell
Well, as an online dating coach, relationship coach, I feel like this is a case of online matchmaking to help out someone who was a bit of a later comer with being... up.
Now just let me say, it is ALWAYS good to have a few good attorneys in your corner! If you're single and looking for a great romantic relationship, when you are engaged and getting married... you might want a pre-nuptial agreement.... or perhaps you need a referral for a divorce attorney so you can become single again and join the ranks of the divorced. Either way, good to have a good attorney, n'est pas?
All the best,
April Braswell
As a Dating and Relationship Coach with a specialty as an Online Dating Coach, I am always seeking to provide a variety of activities to suggest to singles for stretching themselves, breaking out of ruts, and ergo naturally meeting new people.
Indeed, my friend, Craig Ernst, commented on how many married people met their romantic relationship partner via essentially mutual friends. This is quite true. When we are in our 30s and younger, we are generally in social scenarios as a natural consequence of life with our buddies and meeting new people, usually other singles via THEM and their extended network and vice versa.
Well, it's usually single women are ASKING about, "WHERE do I meet more single men?" I think it was Ginie Polo Sayles who I first heard say, and in her sweet, charming, Southern-accented voice, "Why, all around you!" Because it's true. We have these mental filters. I think some of it is we were used to meeting gaggles of single men in one location when were in college - picture fraternity parties, and you'll know immediately what I mean. For those who are reading this who live in non-USA countries, my apologies. I don't know an immediate culturally relevant metaphor to illustrate it for you. But if have ever seen the movie, "Animal House," well, that had LOTS of images of college fraternity parties.
One Place with LOTS of single men.
Well, indeed, college, business school, and Evangelical Bible colleges and seminaries are about the only place for that now.....
And SPORTING EVENTS.
I can think of a few others immediately as well for good place for single women to meet LOADS of men. True, we don't know if they are all single, but you will find LOADs of MEN, MEN, MEN.
As a dating and relationship coach, I would say, that is a target-rich location and leverage it.
Football, baseball, hockey are all underway right now. Go to some games. They can be pee-wee hockey (where is Governor Sarah Palin and her "Hockey Mom" words of wisdom to back me up here?). High school football. Professional baseball. Even going to a sports bar to watch these games can be leveraging the law of large numbers.
Think creatively, get out of the rut you are in, have some fun (!!!), and, yup, get out.
And you are way more likely to meet someone special, get more romantic sex dates, and simply have more fun.
When we are laughing and radiant with happiness, we are magnetically attractive, n'est pas?
All the best,
April Braswell
Internet Dating Sites Guide, Online Personals Sites Review
Hey, just a quick note as YES it IS late at night here in CA.
I will DEFINITELY be participating in Body Language Expert, Kevin Hogan's Amazon Promo for his new book. I'm putting together and Ebook that will likely be about 100 pages. So for folks who want some MORE free advise from me, I'll be posting the details here shortly about WHAT TO DO to participate in the promo and get my Dating and Relationship coach ebook for free.
This is just your heads up.
I'll provide more details within the next few days.
Mazel tov!
All the best,
April Braswell
Just a quick note.
Today is Flag Day, June 14.
Please remember to honor the Flag. I know a few who will be reading this are NOT US citizens, so please bear with me (or bare with me if you are like my good buddy Yann Vernier and his VOX blog, Waiting for the Naked Lady).
For those who are serving abroad to preserve the upholding of liberty, true freedom has responsibility, I thank you for the gift of your sacrifice both in what you are doing and seeing. God bless you. Please know we are praying for you and praying for the safe return of all of you to your homes and loved ones.
God bless and God speed,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
WOW!
The Stanley Cup is OVER!
Congratulations to the Detroit Red Wings who played a GREAT series.
It's been TWO MONTHS of watching.
And now all the Hockey fans have all that time back in their lives... and perhaps you are .... still single....
And you are wondering, I'm single, I'm one of those singles ... what can I do this weekend to increase my chances to get dates? Or to get MORE dates?
Are you in a fulfilling romantic relationship like the one that you want and deserve? Steve and Sonya, I already know YOUR answers to that question about your joyfully fulfilling and satisfying sexual relationships. TG!
Are you going to be alone yet AGAIN this Friday and Saturday night?
Are you still looking for your Romantic Soul Mate? That special person for you to give your heart to?
Well, you could stay home... alone... AGAIN...
OR
You could GET OUT THERE and go PLACE yourself advantageously to meet other singles like yourself, or perhaps little more different than you so that you foster CHEMISTRY for a feeling of fabulous sexual tension. Marvelous sensation, isn't it?
OK. So you're asking, APRIL! I KNOW you are a great Romance Coach and an expert Online Dating Coach, but what am I to DO? What am I going to DO this weekend to up my chances of meeting other singles.
GO TO A STREET FAIR!
Yes, it's that time of year again.
Street Fairs. They are all over the place. Different ethnic festivals. Chinese. Russian. Italian. Irish. Indian. Japanese. Jewish Festivals. Latino Carnival. You try some different foods. Learn about a culture which is perhaps a bit different than your own. Or is your own and you are one of the ambassadors. Cool, n'est pas?
Doing this will require that you be open to a MultiCultural Dating, Interracial Dating relationship. Of course, where I live, this is like breathing. It's just such a GIVEN.
To find Street Fairs in your area, check out Google, naturally, as well as your local newspaper and alternative newspaper for their Events Calendar.
Part of the fun part of eating at one of these Street Fairs is the very eating of different food offers you a point over which to safely converse with OTHERS. "Oh, wow," sucking in breath, "I've never tasted food so HOT! WOW! Would you please pass me the plain yogurt?" and you have exchanged WORDS. We call that, Starting a Conversation. Now you're rolling!
Enjoy!
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
Yes folks we are entering our THIRD period of overtime or OT as we hockey nuts, I mean fans, call it.
Go Guins!
But I gotta say, the Red Wings are playing a mighty fine game!
No TV time ot.
With 3OT periods, yes, what that means they are essentially playing a DOUBLE GAME.
WOW!
Enjoy!
I know, I know. You're wondering HOW to tie this in with being a Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach?
Think of Hockey and watching it together as couples communication building exercise. Or better still, think of it as foreplay.... Of course, if you're playing 3OTs, you won't have anything LEFT to give at the end of OT, but I'll respect you tonight AND in the morning for having played your heart out. And THAT sure IS Romantic!
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
Yes, can you feel the fluttering of hearts in the romance of it all? Mmmhmmm. I'm talking 2OT. That is shorthand for Second Overtime. Unbelievable.
The joy, the loyalty, the fidelity, the heart of it all.
Ahhhh. It's a JOY to watch.
Enjoy!
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
oh MY!
Yes. We have OVERTIME!
eeeeeeeeeeeeee.
This is all about COMMUNICATION, Love, and The Romance of The Cup.
Enjoy!
April Braswell
eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
OK, it's Game 5 and the Penguins are ON THE BOARD!
wheeee!
my sister is cheering for the Detroit Red Wings, a wonderful team.
But even she wants the Guins to win tonight. Why? For that selfless reason - so we have a GAME 6!
Go Guins!
oh, and Hockey and Stanley Cup is ALL about LOVE and ROMANCE. The Romance of The Cup! 
Ah, strong forechecking in the neutral zone teaches us life lessons about COMMUNICATION!
Enjoy!
All the best,
April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach
