23 posts tagged “dating tips”

OK, in case you don't know it or havent' thought of this way, but Online Dating Sites are a subniche of the Social Networking sites.

Soooooo.

Are you single?

Are you up at least the basics of...

Facebook
MySpace
LinkedIn
HotOrNot

Now you do not have to do a TON there, just Have a Presence.  I find I get a regular flow of interested parties from the Social Networking sites.

I also get business from there.... 

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Just a quick hello.

I'll post here later tonight.

Of course, it IS Thursday night.

gentlemen, go to a bar.  you WILL find more women out there tonight with their GFs than on other nights.

ladies!  Go to a business networking function.  I have 3 of them to go to next week.  I can just about guarantee to you now that they will be upwards 97% MALE attended.

All the best,

April Braswell

Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Yup.  Another Easy Dating Tip from your Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach.  Perhaps you were worried that  I had, eek, RUN OUT OF IDEAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ooooo noooooo, say it ain't so!!!

No worries.  I got a million of 'em.  With me, my clients are NEVER in a dating rut with NOTHING they can do on a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday to GO MEET MORE PEOPLE and GET DATES or GET MORE DATES. 

Yesterday I encouraged you to go try a YOGA class to get a romantic date. 

Now, I mainly talked to MEN about doing this for meeting Da Ladies.

However, and here's your bonus freebie (free on top of free, is what?  Uber Free?) because this blog is going to be an other Easy Dating Tip, other than about Yoga.

So, as a bonus, the thing is, ladies, YOU can take Yoga Classes to meet MEN, too.  It's not just The Reverse of yesterday. 

Part of the point of TRY SOMETHING new and stretching yourself (HAD to say it, we're talking about Yoga, right?) is to do something a bit different than what is 100% you you you SO you can meet someone WITH WHOM YOU HAVE CHEMISTRY.

If they are IDENTICAL to you, no chemistry, no fun, no surging passion.  And I don't know about you, but I have GOT to have some surging PASSION in MY romantic relationships.

So ladies, if Yoga is not quite YOUR THING what you NORMALLY DO, then for YOU to take a Yoga class IS a stretch.  And you might meet some nice man who is working on loosening up his hockey thighs. 

That was my OVER DELIVERY part since this is a FREE Easy Dating Tips Advise Blog, where other Romance Coaches will actually CHARGE you for the pleasure of reading their articles so you could actually get a sense of would I want to work with YOU in particular.  I've learned all about Over Delivery from MR. Over Delivery Himself, Motivational Speaker, Master of Persuasion, Kevin Hogan. 

Now for the real point of this blog.

Yup.  More MOVING.  It's Summer Time.  I am all about GETTING OUT, GETTING MOVING, Lookin Good!  and GETTING HEALTHY.

JOIN AN ACTIVITIES CLUB.

Around here we have Absolute Adventures.

Join a Hiking Club.Cycling.Scrabblers who Blog.  Kettlebelling.  Ju Jitsu.  Chi Gung.  Tae Kwan Do. Kirate.  TreadMillsRUs. Jogging.  Power Walkers.  Marathon Runners.  Triathlon Training.  Volley Ball.  Beach Volley Ball.  Volley Ball at the Park.  Tennis.  Baseball.  Softball.  Frisbee Golf.  Swimming.  Golf  (where's John?).  Basketball.  Street Hockey (cause it's gonna be a long long summer without the NHL!). 

See what I mean?

Even if you just try a day or two of each, that's enough for the next 6-9 months for your calendar.  Because of course, with ALL of these Easy Dating Tips, you are going to mix 'em up and do some different things at different times, right?

Enjoy and have fun.  Remember to bring your 35+ Sunscreen, Right?  We've learned that from Dr. Helton who sure know all about  Making Your Skin Beautiful without Surgery.

All the best,

April Braswell

Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Yup.

I'm at it again

TRY SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

Let's contemplate your fitness routine.

What do you usually do?

Are you a gym rat?

Your soul mate is probably running out in nature.

Do you love to hike?  (ooo!  me too!)

Our soul mate may be at the Yoga class at the gym.

Interestingly enough it is often MEN who are encouraged to go to a Yoga class to meet more women.

I feel this is indeed EXCELLENT advise.

And frankly, with where I live I can find a yoga class at a NUMBER of different times of day.

So if your work schedule is unusual like some of my fans who email me, you can still find a yoga class to try out.

Now, one of the nice things for helping your dating class with taking a short class, I think you're thinking, "Summer School AGAIN?!!".  Well, sorta.  One of the helpful attributes of taking a class with sessions is BOTH you have the advantage of seeing each other over the course of usually about 4-6 weeks.  So, you feel a little familiar after 1 or 2 classes.  You could... venture.... 3 sentences to the other.

And yet....

You ONLY have 6 wks.  So you have URGENCY.  You have a DEADline for your action.
 
I wonder what copywriting WounderKidd,.Sheridan Randolph, would have to say about creating Urgency and Deadlines?

Well, you only have 6 weeks. So, you have to converse with her once or twice and then by week 4 or 5 say,  "We're only having 1 or 2 more sessions.  Can I get your phone number?  I wanted to ask you out on a date."

Yes, use those words.  You'll live.

Now the additional beauty part is if she says NO, it is ONLY 1 or 2 more sessions after that. It's not like high school with the WHOLE rest of the year looming ahead of you.

Enjoy!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

To expand further on my idea and metaphor of TAKE A DETOUR:

TAKE A DETOUR AND FOLLOW THESE SIGNS:
Take a slightly different route to/from Church today.  (OK, so it's already afternoon where you are, so you can do this NEXT Sunday or even when you go to a mid-week evening service, or to drop your teens off at the Youth Fellowship)

Eat breakfast at a Denny's and sit at the counter.  Denny's is one of the few places I know that still has a COUNTER.  Around here in Silicon Valley we have this WONDERFUL breakfast place named Nini's.  Nini's still has counter service.  It is a secret I will tell you more about as another April Braswell Unique Easy Dating Tip.  In another post later.  Today at Denny's or whatever equivalent where you live, say "Hello" to the people to your left and to your right as you sip your coffee and half read the Sunday Paper.  You may need the social excuse to break the sound barrier of being able to say, "Would you please pass me the half-and-half?"  Or the Tabasco sauce bottle.  Or the salt and pepper.  They are your props.  Use whatever you can just to break that sound barrier.  You are practicing your social skills and positioning yourself for other singletons to see you.  You never know who you are going to meet or what new tidbit of information they will provide to you.  "Hey, you know, I'm single too.  Where do you like to go to meet single people your age?" Or "What do you do to meet other single people your age?"  "Really?  Wow, I'll have to remember that.  It sounds great.  Thank you.  I like to go to XYX"  or  "I like to do XYZ."  Again, thank them, and then turn back to your coffee or paper.  You are not trying to impose yourself too long beyond 3-5 sentences unless they are responsive in conversation with you.  If they utter 1 or 2 sentences, then they are just being polite.  If they utter 3-5 sentences, they might be interested in a conversation with you. 

John, you can even do this with your boys with you.  In a way, they are your props.  Trust me, they are so cute and handsome.  Every waitress will be delighted to chit chat with them.  Demonstrate and model your confident male conversation behavior with your waitress by simply engaging her in a little polite conversation.  Find SOMETHING to compliment her about.  That ALONE is already a great male dating behavior, a Dating Best Practice. 

Compliment the ladies.
The best compliments to women you are dating is on how they look, smell, sound, and are dressed.  When I say how they SMELL, I mean, compliment her perfume or in the absence of perfume her freshly showered smell.  "You sure look beautiful in that dress."  "You're so beautiful."  "You're so pretty."

Ok, but back to the waitress.  This is for small talk and you're maybe not trying to date her.  Just demonstrate and model SMALL TALK WITH WOMEN for your boys and get some practice in for yourself, too.

In which case, admire her waitressing.  Read her name tag is you can, and address her by her name.

"Jill, I was just telling my twin boys here how much I admired the great service you're giving us, filling our coffee and water all the time like you do.  How long have you been working here?  Have you been waitressing long?"

She will say something like, "Twins! Wow.  Oh, I'm a student at the local community college, and I've only just started working here." 

That was about 2-3 sentences.  She's got other tables to serve, just you're being gracious and convivial here.  They're well-practiced at this in The South (Yann and David, that's just another region within The States where they are very gracious, slower-paced and just about always have the time to connect with other people.  I know you both have crosssed The Pond a number of times.  Just to give you context.).  So, say maybe 1-2 more sentences to her, and let her get back to work.

"Wow, Jill, you've only just started.  That's very impressive.  Well, you're doing a great job.  Keep up the good work."

If she seems to have a minute or two more to talk, you could always add.

"You're studying at the community college?  That's great.  What are you studying?  My twin boys just back from serving our country in Iraq and are considering going back to college."

She might then tell you what she is studying.

Or if she is say, over 30 as a waitress, she might then turn to your boys, admire them, and ask THEM what they are considering studying.

This is all just to demonstrate to you some of the possible ways to practice your gracious communication skills and model it and your POISE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX to your boys. Avoid putting them on the spot if you think they will socially panic like deer caught in the headlights, "Dad!  Don't make me talk to GIRLS.  I don't know HOW."  Well, they won't SAY that.  Their faces will. You know them best.

OK.  That's enough for today.  Congratulate yourself on the practice you got in.

Great job!

All the best,

April Braswell

Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Hi from the romantic heart of Silicon Valley, your Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach. 

Well, with all the street fairs and festivals that have started that I just blogged about and recommended that you check out, roadways are blocked off.  Our usual routes to

the shopping center
the shopping mall
our favorite bar
the social hall
the office
church

ARE BLOCKED!

I was driving up the San Francisco this morning to get my hair DONE at Joseph Cozza salon in The Gump's Building on Maiden Lane.  And, wouldn't you know it?  My usual route to 101 was BLOCKED to make room for Sunset Magazine's Street Festival.  Hmm, I'll have to WALK over there (save some gas!) tomorrow and make some new friends and maybe even some new dates.

I had to TAKE A DETOUR.

And that got me thinking.

I've said this before in some different ways, but in order to MEET MORE PEOPLE and ergo GET MORE DATES, we need to do SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

Awhile back when I was suggesting that we try some classes at the Community College, or the Learning Annex, or WHEREVER.  A coupla of the people responded saying grandma's favorite advise, "Oh, just do the activities you love, and you'll meet someone." 

Well.....

You might. 

And if you are 26 and not really serious about wanting to be in a great fulfilling and satisfying longterm romantic relationship that would lead to Marriage or your Life Partner (whether you covenant or not), sure, just keep doing what you doing and enjoying and maybe it will happen.

But if you are over 28 and you are starting to think about, "Heyyyyyy, you know, I really enjoy being Single.  Being Single is great.  I have a lot of fun with my friends.  But.... ah, I kinda want to be in a relationship.... How do I really DO that now?"  Then you actually need to....

DO NEW THINGS

Now as my buddy, Motivational Life Coach, Sue Crutcher recommends.  Baby Steps.  Baby Steps to change.

I am not suggesting that you move to France, New Orleans, or Phoenix, AZ. 

You do not need to move THOUSANDS of miles away.  Although you may have some reasons for doing so, and I cover that in my Romantic Love eBook (soon to be released, I'm reworking it).  But in general, what DOES help is to do some new things which are few degrees different than what you are doing now.

That way, you meet people who are more likely ALIGNED with you, but sufficiently DIFFERENT than you to create CHEMISTRY.  We NEED those differences for ROMANCE and SEXUAL ATTRACTION.  Vive la différence!  Thank God for them, or life would be too dull.

So, where I am, it is still early evening (my date is later tonight).  what about TONIGHT?  what are you doing?  Are you home alone?  Stop downloading the Porn as I tell my male clients, power down your computers.  (You're gasping to be taken away from that Life Line.....)  Ladies?  Put DOWN the Romance Novel and go Write One of YOUR OWN!

and GET OUT.

Go to a bar for 90 minutes.
Go to a country western bar at about 7/7:30 pm for their Dance Lessons.  you will meet 25 new people and a new skill.  Introduce yourself to each person you dance with.  Ask 7 of them to dance with you afterward.  I don't care if they are their with their GF or BF.  You just politely turn to the GF/BF and say,  "I'm a novice and could really use the practice.  Would you mind if I danced this dance with James?Abdul?  Jane?Sonia?"  Only a CLOD would say NO to that polite, respectful, couple honoring request.  It might be THEIR favorite song, but then they'll probably say, "How about the NEXT song?"  And if you are a man, you say to that lady who is already taken, "What you two have is really great."  And you just sort of plant the seeds to be fixed up with any of her single girlfriends.  You might even buy them a round of drinks and hang while drinking it, chit chatting.  Many ladies LOVE to play matchmaker, and you just might get a date from it.  You can always say,  "I'll be back here in 2 wks.  If you're GF would be more comfortable, she could just join the dance class then, and we'd meet then.  Thanks!"

If CW dance is REALLY not your thing.  There are Salsa classes.  VERY sexy.

I don't care WHAT you do.  You just CANNOT stay at HOME on Saturday night.  GET OUT.

Then report back to me what you did to be accountable.  (that includes that 28 yo man from The South here.....)

All the best,

April Braswell

Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Yes, I know my last Summer School easy dating tips dating advice from your Romance Coach for sowing seed to meet more people with whom you might have chemistry and then to create that great fulfilling and satisfying Romantic Relationship, well, it was geared toward the men.

All those arts classes, ceramics classes, etc.  That was for the guys to meet more of Da Ladies.

So, what about the women and our need to stretch ourselves a bit? 

Go take a shooting class.

OK, this is not going to be for everyone, but out West and in the US South, ladies knowing how to shoot is both fabulous AND feminine.  Think Dale Evans.

Now there's a lady who knew how to shoot and work those accessories!

There are shooting ranges all around the country, both indoor and outdoor ranges.

And TRUST ME, the classes are CHOCK FULL of MEN!

It is SUCH a fruitful arena that you may have to take the class twice.....  Just so you learn everything REALLY well.

I do not know ANYONE who has ever recommended this tip before.  It is absolutely an April Braswell Original Easy Dating Tip for Getting More Dates.

And be sure to freshen your breath and your lipstick beforehand.  Elementary to have fresh breath, but so many neglect even our most elementary items or just need a warm coaching reminder to Be Our Best.

Aim for the heart when it comes to Romance!

All the best,

April Braswell

Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

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OK.  For my age demographic, this weekend will NOT be about dating.

Sex In The City, the movie, opens.  Sex In The City, Sex In The City Movie

So, gentlemen, go with the Law of Large Numbers.

I will not suggest that you go to a full fledged chick flick.  Nor will I ask you to hold my purse at the store.  (you might do so while we are at the hospital, but NOT at the store.  I'll NEVER ask.  Your masculinity is safe with me.)

However, you could, ya know, venture over to the movie theatre, and ah, hang in the lobby.  You will SEE and MEET a LOT of women.  I know it is harder to move in when we are gaggled en masse.  Just, movie theatres will be a great place to go Girl Watching.

And ladies?  Where will I be?  Not there.  First of all, I'd rather wait until after opening weekend when it will be CRAZY.  And BESIDES, it's Date Night.  I will, naturally be On a Date. Of course, AFTER The Stanley Cup Game 4....

If you are a single lady?  I think head out to the sports bars and you will meet a lot more men this weekend because so many women will be at SITC.  So, head out early...

Oh, and the Stanley Cup game starts at 8 pm EDT.  So, you could head out to the bars a little early.....  The men will be watching the games.  And you will have LESS competition in The Field because of all the women who will be watching Sex In The City at the theatres.

Have fun and Play Safe!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach

WOW!

Can you BELIEVE it is almost JUNE 2008!

Yup, May 2008 is wrapping up and coming to an end.

If you are playing over at Google Zeitgest, you will see what is one people's minds...

Britney Spears, a perennial favorite.

And some TRAVEL sites.

What are we all starting to think about?

SUMMER VACATION!

Well, in my work as a Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach, where my goal with you is to create a Life Partner/Marriage Relationship, not just get more dates (but it STARTS there!) one of my suggestions (I have ENDLESS Easy Dating Tips, you will NEVER remain in a rut with me, just ask Baby Steps Lifestyle Coach,
Sue Crutcher!) is to GO TO SUMMER SCHOOL!

There are SO many things you could learn this summer!

Just THINK about it!

You could work on your French at the Alliance Francaise!  Or How to Negotiate ANYTHING Better! in either English OR Finnish!

You could get Sabrina Peterson to work on your GUT and your overall fitness.  When she says,  "I fix people." Don't worry!  It's not what you think!

And while you are trying to improve your middle, you'll want to check out Chiropractic Miracles
with Dr. Michael Roth of SoCal who can also help you leverage all that weight loss and fitness work you are doing with Miss Sabrina by Knowing Your Body Type!

Frankly, after you've lost your first 20 lbs, your clothes will start to HANG too loose on you and you will start to feel the lure and the pull to the Mall to do some Clothes Shopping, BUT WAIT!  Don't venture over there without first having a wardrobe consultation with Image Consulting Expert Jennifer Skinner first!  Then it is SAFE to pull out your plastic!

Well, if you've been pulling out your plastic a bit tooooo much recently and you are worrying about Your Credit and Mortgage Woes you'll want to arrange a Credit and Mortgage seminar session with John Wadsworth.  After you've gotten that squared away, you'll be delighted to learn more about Golf from him.  Not that I'm saying he swings, mind you... But I'll bet his TWIN boys (he SURELY could have used some EXPERT Baby Sitting Advise from Boston HOTTEST mom, Lisa McLellan!  If you ask NICELY and say PRETTY PLEASE, I'll bet she'll give you an autograph!  When she's through blushing and then happily gushing over her children, and YOURS!) are DARLING, sweethearts, and heart breakers  (sweet, tall, handsome and oblivous!).  If ever they had gotten to be TOO much of a handful, he could have listened to the wise advise and learned a few things from the trenches from Teen Advice expert on the need to give Tougher Love so they know you really DO love them.

After you've had your middle work and your back adjusted, you might feel a yen to head on over to the beach at some point this summer and follow the sage Sales Training, Leadership Training of the founder of  The Sales and Leadership Institute and want to BEACH it with your laptop while building your business AND your tan.

BUT WAIT!

Don't forget the SPF! as Dr. Peter Helton would advise for Making Your Skin Look Beautiful without Surgery.  Of course he'd like you to lay off the coffee, too, but that's a harder pitch than the 35SPF sunscreen. A Corporate Veil without TRUE protection won't be enough as Rob Northup will tell you for your business as SPF is for your skin.  And SPEAKING of PROTECTION  (yes, USE a condom!)  Making Business and Construction Insurance EASY to understand expert, Sonya Lenzo, can help teach you about how to protect yourself with insurance in addition to incorporating.

Frankly after a day of shopping at the mall for your new wardrobe, you are probably feeling VERY stressed.  I'd recommend you take a course in Self-Hypnosis then from the UK's leading hypnotist, David Power.

If that's not enough, you could learn a few things about TRAVEL and may need to book your holiday as the UK's leading personal life coach, Yann Vernier,calls what we call a VACATION.  WHO else but The Road Warrior could help you plan your IDEA Summer Vacation?  His?  HOME! 

With the economy in the state of Stagflation that we are in, before you book your travel through Scott, you'll want to check the economic forecast of your destination with Aaron Agostini.  And just because he is a besotted newlywed does NOT mean he sees it all through Rose Tinted glasses.

While you are looking for TO WHERE TO TRAVEL you might want to consider HOW you will get there and consider leveraging some Alternative Energy sources with Matt Shields.  Of course, since he is young, single, and HOT, one might argue that HE is an alternative energy source....

Perhaps you have QUESTIONS?  Well, Tim Birch, aka, The Answer Man, has answers to EVERYTHING about making YOU better!  And if you need help with COOL STUFF on the web, well, naturalmente, you'll be reaching out to Andrew Records (not a recording label) to help e-teach you.

When you want to learn more about How to STOP SMOKING NOW! you'll want to check in with Michelle Matteson to learn a thing or two!  Plus she is as CUTE as a BUTTON!  (oh and SINGLE!  waving of red flag!  email me, I'll arrange an Encounter..... aka A Date!  She is TOO CUTE to remain on the market for long.  You've been forewarned.  You snooze, you lose, fellas.....).

If you or a loved one is approaching 50 you might want to learn more about Crohns Disease And Colitis - Turning Down the Pain.

Now that you have conquered pain, disease, your gut, your finances, and your smoking, you are LOOKING MAHVELOUS!

Frankly, it is SO time to POST YOUR ONLINE DATING PROFILE!

And that's where I come in.  BTW, you will need some HELP (trust me, we ALL need some help in this) with really CRAFTING a great online profile.  Frankly, your profile is your Sales Letter to the Romance World.  Yes, that means, Copywriting Made Simple will be necessary.

Then once you've done that, well, you'll be Irresistibly Attractive.

Enjoy!

God bless and God Speed!

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach, Dating Advice and Tips, Internet Dating Tips

One of the things to do periodically is to STOP all of your activity and take time to ASSESS.

How has all of your application of ALL of my Easy Dating Tips been?

Have you tried some of them?

Are indeed at least finding that you are MEETING MORE PEOPLE?

Asking them out on dates is another whole things, but is the first thing happening?

Take this evening off and relax.  Take an assessment of where you are.  Are you meeting more people whom you'd want to date?

If not, you might want to talk with me about coaching to apply these in conjunction with the guidance of a successful coach.

Tomorrow we start a new week of Easy Dating Tips!

Enjoy!

All the best,