Online Dating Coach, Relationship Coach - online matchmaking
Well, as an online dating coach, relationship coach, I feel like this is a case of online matchmaking to help out someone who was a bit of a later comer with being... up.
Now just let me say, it is ALWAYS good to have a few good attorneys in your corner! If you're single and looking for a great romantic relationship, when you are engaged and getting married... you might want a pre-nuptial agreement.... or perhaps you need a referral for a divorce attorney so you can become single again and join the ranks of the divorced. Either way, good to have a good attorney, n'est pas?
All the best,
April Braswell
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If you are thinking about living together with someone of the opposite sex...or even with someone of the same sex nowadays, you need a cohabitation agreement.
Or an even better idea, from Felix Dennis, "If it flys, floats or f----, it's better to lease it than to own."
Steve
Thats great Steve.....Thats been the funniest think I have seen all day...
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Oooooh, ouch! Okay, so it's not romantic, but I can absolutely see the value in having such agreements.
Jennifer Skinner
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It's only the middle class who doesn't like it.
the poor don't think they need it, lol.
And the truly wealth already have a lot of that covered in their TRUSTS, hence T&E attorneys (Trust & Estates, not... travel and entertainment! lol!)
I thought the exchange there with Steve and then Trisha was hysterically funny. You guys are great!
All the best,
April Braswell
Online Dating Coach
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April,
Here in Ontario, Canada the laws for common law is as soon as a couple moves in, it's common law. If they break up--entitled to half. I don't know about pre-nup agreements,...it has the "Love you, but if we get divorced, you agree to do this". think it takes away the sanctity of marriage.
Personally, I would not move in with someone unless I was married to her. In another post, you used a Sarah Palin reference...after seeing her interview with Katie Couric, I'd be very afraid if she had to be the president of the USA should something happen to John McCain
Steve, my husband wanted me to sign a prenup and I laughed in his face. What he thought was so valueable was crap and I wouldn't have wanted any of it if you paid me to take it. One thing was this ugly rust colored car same make and model as mine but in worse condition. Then he owned a condo which he bought in the 80's so it was worth less than what he owed on it and the mortgage was at 10.25%. Yeah, and about those old crappy pieces of furniture that he calls antiques...... I don't know, but I think you really have to have something worth protecting before you expect someone to sign one of those things.
Lisa McLellan
Your reaction is typical of many women. But times have changed. The government, lawyers and the legal system have combined in such a fashion as to make marriage no longer in a man's best interest. People have a fantasy of marriage that is detached from reality.
In an age where more than 50% of marriages end in divorce and living in an increasingly litigious society only a fool, or somebody who expected to never have anything would get married without some form of legal protection.
Most people get married young, when they have nothing and mistakenly think they do not need a prenuptial agreement because they have nothing at the time. All I am saying is that for the man, failure to sign a prenuptial agreement should be a deal killer.
Steve
I would not agree with Steve that says "that for the man, failure to sign a prenup agreement should be a deal killer." That sounds really tacky and old-fashioned.
It makes me think long and hard about getting married nowadays, if that attitude is prevalent, regardless whether your a man or a woman.
Good point Steve. I never considered that a prenup would include future assets and income. So I guess for some it would be important. I guess I am a little different though which is why I thought it was so ridiculous when my husband said it. If he found himself another honey and walked out the door tomorrow, I would not want anything from him. I wouldn't even want child support. Just give me my kids and my own car. Take the house and everything in it. You are right though, I have seen a few people go into financial ruin after divorce.
Lisa McLellan
If I had a nickel for every women who told a man, "If we ever break-up I don't want anything from you, I'll just leave." and then took the guy to the cleaners I could bail out Wall Street. People say things when the "magic" of the relationship is upon them and then, when things go wrong we get into the "Ultimatum Game" where people just want to lash out and hurt the other person.
I have been on the receiving end and I can't tell you how many Guys, and girls, have told me the same thing. Always bet on revenge.
Steve
Steve Said.."failure to sign a prenup agreement is a deal killer". For a young single never married, never been engaged. I think that statement is truly sad. n see why there is such a poor attitude toward marriage these days.Steve, you make marriage sound like a business contract.
I have a solution, don't show ALL of your cards, that way a man is protecting himself.
You speak with the sunny opinion of someone young. Let me deconstruct your argument a little, and I am not trying to be mean here, just laying out reality for you as a man.
1) Marriage is a business contract. Being in a relationship is something entirely different. Relationships are great, I am in a fantastic one at the moment and I have been in some great ones at different points of my life. Signing a business contract relating to my relationships did nothing to enhance them. Why enter into a contractual agreement when you don't have to?
2) The reason there is such a poor attitude towards marriage today is because the system is broken. Tell me, what benefit does a man gain from becoming married? I can list the reasons for a woman, since she gains access and possession of 50% of all you own, but what is in it for you. Don't tell me more sex because you would be wrong here.
3) Don't show all your cards? Ever here of forensic accounting? Divorce lawyers will seek out everything you have, whether you disclosed them or not. You will lose, or potentially will lose, 40% or more of everything you own or ever will own.
4) There is a reason for the saying, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." You do not want to be on the receiving end of that...trust me. Especially since there is no benefit to you to being married.
As for the "deal breaker" part. I mean it. As hard as it is for most people to believe there are plenty of women out there and you can replace the one you have with another one. If you are in a great relationship you should stay in it. I have made the same choice because I am truly happy. Signing over half my stuff won't make it better.
You can choose to ignore me and if you do I wish you luck.
Steve
Steve,
For starters, I am not in a relationship at this time.
Respectfully, your viewpoint sounds jaded. You sound like a bitter middle aged man. Your rational makes marriage sound like I should hire Robert Kardashian and his crew of lawyers. I can begin to understand why I can't stand dating; too many bitter singles that are divorced, only looking for "revenge" when the first sign of trouble arises.
For me, this is problematic in dating. Never in my life I have read ads that are 30-something single divorce, separated etc. I find it mind-boggling. As for looking for a date; well so far, it's like finding a needle in a haystack. Like I said, far too many bitter, jaded women out there. I am not interested in dating to become "the sponsor" like they do for World Vision. Nor I am not into babysitting women because they have an itch, I have to scratch. Perhaps they got burned before...not my fault nor will I accept the baggage of the woman's poor decision to marry an ass! Based on your logic, the women are all out to usurp the male.