Online Dating Coach - Try Something New, and I mean REALLY different....
When we pursue Online Dating with single using the internet personals, most often we are doing so to find love with PRECISELY where WE are now.
And I have to say in my early 30s in the EARLY Neanderthal days of Internet Personals and finding love online, that's what we did.
yes, those were THE DARK AGES before we could attach jpegs, pix of us, to our Online Dating Profiles. Really, those WERE blind dates. But indeed, by doing so, we got LOTS of good practice and really DID only meet for coffees and drinks for Date0.
Then we all got SO serious.
I must find THE ONE. So much pressure.
And then I remember seeing the cute Romantic Comedy, "Must Love Dogs." Now, this is not THE GREATEST movie out there. And in some ways, I prefer, "The Shop Around the Corner" 3rd remake with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan for displaying the early days of Online Dating which started really in chat rooms. In "Must Love Dogs," Stockard Channing's character is the one to watch to LEARN something.
She was using DIFFERENT Online Dating Sites to post DIFFERENT and I mean REALLY different profiles with the Internet Personals. Like in one she was a Country Western lover, another a Bibliophile. Etc. TOTALLY different personas. And she made some point about how doing so allowed her to explore and fulfill DIFFERENT ASPECTS of HER PERSONALITY.
She was EXPLORING and treating life, love, sex, and romance as an adventure.
Isn't that how you want to approach life? As an adventure to be LIVED?
So, go out and follow suit.
Try something REALLY different that is within YOU.
Explore a facet of yourself that you would love to surface. And by doing so, you will increase the likelihood of meeting INTERESTING people whom you want to be friends and lovers with. And THOSE are the ones you will want to spend your life with.
And have FUN!
All the best,
April Braswell
Comments
A brilliant post. And a great example of how, when you focus on an area, you become an expert. I would never have taken that aspect from the movie you mentioned because I'm tuned in to how my interests (and biases) are represented in the world around me.
Thanks for such a cool example; and another reason why, through it's diversity of participants, this team is so good to be part of.
Philip Graves [Consumer Behaviour Expert]
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That movie is a wonderful example of the point you are making!
I've always used theatre to "play" with different personalities. You can be just about anyone you want to be on stage. So much fun!
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Scott A Bell
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I find it more about creative ways to get laid then exploring different aspects of my personality.
If you want a relationship as opposed to playing games I have found it much more effective to be authentic and your true self. When you start up a relationship with a lie you cripple it from the start.
Steve
Persuasion & Influence
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thanks for reminder to try something new, meeting new people is a good experience.
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