Online Dating and Relationship Coach - Keeling Over

Well, today will NOT be one of my more creative Easy Dating Tips blog posts.  Just a quick note from SoCal.

Invested a DAY with my sis and my cousin.  Invested in RELATIONSHIP TIME.

Just a quick thought if my brain can formulate and articulate this after a full day..... 

RELATIONSHIP SKILLS are indeed, yes RELATIONSHIP SKILLS

For clients wanting to work with me as their dating and relationship coach, it's not that I push Online Dating Coach as like the ONLY piece of their Dating Marketing Strategy as part of my Relationship Coach expertise.  I actually spend a lot our initial working time on checking in with THEM and what THEY want.  Where are you in your dating?  No judgements (soooo no judgements, please just TELL me....) - how many dates have you been on .... in the last month?  last 6 months?  Last year?  Just ball parking is fine.  I'm trying get a feel for THEM and to know how best to coach THEM.  Where are we starting and what do we need to do?  Yes, I often hear the RESULT they want, but I need to know where they are really NOW so we can get there, ok?

So, Relationship Skills in one area DO indeed correlate to good communication, negotiation, and relationship skills in another.

One important aspect is... how important is HAVING relationships to you in your life?  Sometimes we say and think it's really important, and then reflect on how close we are say, with family members.  And remember, relationships, repeat after me... take WORK.  (insert cuss word of choice to vent how you think and feel about THAT one, but it's true.  And as we mature, indeed, we all KNOW that.)

If I find myself alone a lot, how can I reach out to OTHERs more and more deeply?  Do I call them only when I need something?  Or am I checking in with them to make things happen for our friendship myself?  Am I inviting them to have brunch or breakfast with me on the weekends?  Do we have bizarre schedules (I had a journalist buddy who worked some STRANGE hours.  Ok, so we didn't get to see each other F2F for a few months, but phone calls and emails were exchanged, and I just kept inviting my buddy for coffee, drinks, whenever it works for you, and now schedules are shifted, and we're seeing each other again.  PERSIST.  Persist in showing that you CARE and WANT to make an effort to BE IN A RELATIONSHIP/FRIENDSHIP with them.)

Kevin Hogan, Motivational Speaker, Education/Business, well, God bless him, we've both noticed that EACH of us and the OTHER... is a RELATIONSHIP oriented person.  Thank GOD he likes this about me, because, oye, it is SO the case with me.  Well, or we wouldn't be friends and would simply drive each other crazy.  In business, really, it's a lot more enjoyable and indeed PROFITABLE to work with people we are on some level... friends with.  Where we ENJOY the relationship.  And indeed in romantic sex life partner relationships, yes, fabulous sex IS fabulous sex... however, I am always pointing out to clients, do you want to TALK with this person for the next 10+ years?  If not, then not.  Yes, in Romantic Sex Relationships we want COMPANIONSHIP, friendship. 

But if it's ONLY friendship and no toe-curling, eek.  That's not going to work either. 

Well, on the concept of my BEING a Relationship Person and being known and noted for it....  So much so, that, well, I do certain things that will ENSURE success for people I care about.  I'll stay on them, follow-up, and also work with THEIR life realities and THEIR goals, not just mine for them. Yes, I want them to do really well, but maybe THIS is the year for them to dedicate themselves to building their businesses and NEXT year will be the one for RELATIONSHIP HUNTING.  Of course, the former is a superb foundation for the later.  Build good business relationships, and you will know, experience and LIVE the skills and life for a better ROMANTIC relationship.

And other sweeties, well, they are FT wives and moms.  And hello, laundry must still be done, the food shopping, and the are not going to have the same TIME to devote to business goals as I have.  So, I support them in THEIR goals and shine light on how THEY can do what they want to do, and even work up a focused daily task list which is realistic FOR THEM to do.  (ah, not mine, they'll just start laughing....)

and you're probably thinking.... heyyyyyyy, those are... COACHING SKILLS. 

Precisely.

So, what are YOUR goals?

What are your RELATIONSHIP goals?  both romantic, and maybe some filial relationships....

Because, indeed, in the end, the love you make is equal to the love you take.

Make sure you are GIVING a lot of it.  Frankly, it's just MORE FUN to do so.  And OYE, it is SO about the fun, is it not?

All the best,

April Braswell

Online Dating Coach

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