Easy Dating Tips from your Romance Coach for GETTING MORE DATES - Take a Detour!

Hi from the romantic heart of Silicon Valley, your Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach. 

Well, with all the street fairs and festivals that have started that I just blogged about and recommended that you check out, roadways are blocked off.  Our usual routes to

the shopping center
the shopping mall
our favorite bar
the social hall
the office
church

ARE BLOCKED!

I was driving up the San Francisco this morning to get my hair DONE at Joseph Cozza salon in The Gump's Building on Maiden Lane.  And, wouldn't you know it?  My usual route to 101 was BLOCKED to make room for Sunset Magazine's Street Festival.  Hmm, I'll have to WALK over there (save some gas!) tomorrow and make some new friends and maybe even some new dates.

I had to TAKE A DETOUR.

And that got me thinking.

I've said this before in some different ways, but in order to MEET MORE PEOPLE and ergo GET MORE DATES, we need to do SOMETHING DIFFERENT.

Awhile back when I was suggesting that we try some classes at the Community College, or the Learning Annex, or WHEREVER.  A coupla of the people responded saying grandma's favorite advise, "Oh, just do the activities you love, and you'll meet someone." 

Well.....

You might. 

And if you are 26 and not really serious about wanting to be in a great fulfilling and satisfying longterm romantic relationship that would lead to Marriage or your Life Partner (whether you covenant or not), sure, just keep doing what you doing and enjoying and maybe it will happen.

But if you are over 28 and you are starting to think about, "Heyyyyyy, you know, I really enjoy being Single.  Being Single is great.  I have a lot of fun with my friends.  But.... ah, I kinda want to be in a relationship.... How do I really DO that now?"  Then you actually need to....

DO NEW THINGS

Now as my buddy, Motivational Life Coach, Sue Crutcher recommends.  Baby Steps.  Baby Steps to change.

I am not suggesting that you move to France, New Orleans, or Phoenix, AZ. 

You do not need to move THOUSANDS of miles away.  Although you may have some reasons for doing so, and I cover that in my Romantic Love eBook (soon to be released, I'm reworking it).  But in general, what DOES help is to do some new things which are few degrees different than what you are doing now.

That way, you meet people who are more likely ALIGNED with you, but sufficiently DIFFERENT than you to create CHEMISTRY.  We NEED those differences for ROMANCE and SEXUAL ATTRACTION.  Vive la différence!  Thank God for them, or life would be too dull.

So, where I am, it is still early evening (my date is later tonight).  what about TONIGHT?  what are you doing?  Are you home alone?  Stop downloading the Porn as I tell my male clients, power down your computers.  (You're gasping to be taken away from that Life Line.....)  Ladies?  Put DOWN the Romance Novel and go Write One of YOUR OWN!

and GET OUT.

Go to a bar for 90 minutes.
Go to a country western bar at about 7/7:30 pm for their Dance Lessons.  you will meet 25 new people and a new skill.  Introduce yourself to each person you dance with.  Ask 7 of them to dance with you afterward.  I don't care if they are their with their GF or BF.  You just politely turn to the GF/BF and say,  "I'm a novice and could really use the practice.  Would you mind if I danced this dance with James?Abdul?  Jane?Sonia?"  Only a CLOD would say NO to that polite, respectful, couple honoring request.  It might be THEIR favorite song, but then they'll probably say, "How about the NEXT song?"  And if you are a man, you say to that lady who is already taken, "What you two have is really great."  And you just sort of plant the seeds to be fixed up with any of her single girlfriends.  You might even buy them a round of drinks and hang while drinking it, chit chatting.  Many ladies LOVE to play matchmaker, and you just might get a date from it.  You can always say,  "I'll be back here in 2 wks.  If you're GF would be more comfortable, she could just join the dance class then, and we'd meet then.  Thanks!"

If CW dance is REALLY not your thing.  There are Salsa classes.  VERY sexy.

I don't care WHAT you do.  You just CANNOT stay at HOME on Saturday night.  GET OUT.

Then report back to me what you did to be accountable.  (that includes that 28 yo man from The South here.....)

All the best,

April Braswell

Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach