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OK, so all the women are saying...

Yeah baby!

Amen, sister!

I am THERE with you!

Bring it on.

Uh huh.

This is a big nudge actually for... the MEN who read this blog.

Think of it as another nuance of Practicing Superb Self Care like my buddy, leadership trainer and public speaker, Steve Chambers, practices and recommends.  He even blogged about it, too.

Yes, gentlemen.  Getteth thee to a Nail Salon. 

1.  Oh MY, you are SO going to love this.  You'll thank me and have a new addiction.  And EVERY time you go, you can MEET CHICKS!  (aka Women as we natives like to refer to ourselves).

2.  Your nails will actually LOOK better.  Indeed, you can do this and still LOOK masculine (avoid a metro look for heterosexual men, if you are gay, GO for a touch metro.  OK, you already ARE Metros inspiration, so what am I even saying here?).

3.  While you are there.... inquire... (repeat these PRECISE SECRET TIPS which I am about to reveal to you.....)

"Do you do.. massage, here?"

They may offer shoulder massage and leg (calf area) massage.

Take the Salon Chair, ask them to show you the CONTROLS (think, just like TiVo and DVDs, there is a CONTROL and no woman is fighting you for it.  see, I told you you were going to LOVE this place!).  CONTROLS...... isn't that a lovely word?

The CONTROLS controls (yes, surprise there....) VIBRATION and possibly HEAT in your salon chair. 

Try a few different VIBRATION options. 

Sit back.  Exhale.  Drink your coffee. Enjoy getting your nails done.  mmmmmmm.  Yummy isn't it?  Can't you just see yourself doing this this Saturday (today!)?

Oh yeah, wait, mmmmfph.  Women!

Shake head slightly to loosen bedraggled fuzz from brain.

Women.  Oh yeah, right, that's why I'm here.  To meet WOMEN.

So, as the saliva is collecting at the corner of your mouth and you are about to drool it feels so relaxing, just sort of say SOMETHING to the woman to your right or to your left.  Words like, "Wow!  This is Great!  It's my first time.  And it feels so good!"

Stare at her toe nails.  "Wow, that is such a beautiful color.  How do you women pick those colors?  I'm just terrible with colors."  You're probably wearing a bright orange trade show tshirt, so she'll believe you and hopefully SAY SOMETHING BACK to you.

You, sir, are now engaged in a conversation.  Keep it rolling.

"This was great.  Do you come here every Saturday?"  insert her response.  "No?  Oh. Well, then can I get your number because I'd like to see you again?"  Hand her a pen expectantly.

Then for G's sake, PHONE HER, OK?

Thank you.

Enjoy!

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

She won.

SHE WON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you to all who helped make it happen.

And you know what is so sweet here?

1.  It was her dear besotted husband who nominated her (sees her, his woman, his wife) as Boston's Hottest mom.

2.  Indeed, she IS Boston's Hottest MOM, because what she won is concert tix which will benefit her kidz.

That is SO Lisa.

Of course, now she will need a ....

babysitter

Thank you for making this happen for her and her kidz.

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Lisa McLellan

Borrowing a page from my good friend, leadership trainer and public speaker, Steve Chambers.

What is my point about my silly blog post title this evening?

Go with what is POPULAR!

It will be THURSDAY EVENING for you.

GET OUT.

Need some help selecting WHERE to go?

Just for THIS WEEK, go to the THE most popular bar in town.

I don't care if you it's your favorite or if it's really more a white bar and you are asian.  Or it is Country Western and you are Disco.  Go.  This is just for practice, ok?

And then what about FRIDAY NIGHT? 

Stay with WHAT IS POPULAR.

Go to THE MOST POPULAR RESTAURANT.   OK, so now you can pick the most popular Thai, or the most popular Mexican.  Or the most popular soul food.... you get my drift?

This is to INSPIRE you, your dating and your creativity.

Ok, ok.  I hear your pain.  "April, but, but, but.... you're being so harsh!"  Ok, maybe that was.  So with the bar.  Could be the most popular.. dance bar... sports bar...

Just, go with the THEME of POPULAR.

Enjoy and have fun!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Dazzlingly Beautiful Sabrina Peterson

2 comments

Yup. 

Set the alarm for a DIFFERENT TIME.

I can hear you now,  Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeek!

Ok. so for dating.  for romance.  we need, what?  yes, CHEMISTRY!

In my work as a Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach, as part of the whole strategy I work out with my clients, I do recommend they try some different things to shake things up a bit BECAUSE  our DIFFERENCES foster chemistry.

Soooo, are you an early morning person?

Get up 1 hr later and go for a walk around your hood NOW.  You will run into and be seeing people who get up a bit later than you.

If you are NOT an early morning person (me, me, me!  although, really I can get up at 6 am, but with discipline, then the HABIT resets my internal alarm clock.), set you alarm for 1 hour earlier and get up and go take that same walk.

No do NOT set your alarm clock for 1 hr earlier and then hit the snooze button until it's the same our you normally get up!  (you are wondering, "April, how could think I could do that - [merde, she understands me TOO entirely well!]?" ahhh, cause I've DONE that?  Not the habits I want to establish or model, but I'll just be truthful that I HAVE done this...... )

After your walkies, go to Starbucks or Peets.  You will SEE different people there now than you usually do, don't you?

That is just ONE simple idea.  Do it for 1 week.  Do it for both days on the weekend.  Whatever works.  You WILL see and meet DIFFERENT people than you normally do.

Have fun!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

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BOSTON HOT MOM Contest CLICK HERE

I've been in an all day company meeting Allllllllll daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay.

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Patiently page through until you find that Boston Mom, you know the one, the one who is our dear friend and who WE know is beautiful inside and out!

WAIT:  you can just type that her # photo is #49/

THANK YOU.

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Lisa McLellan

Would you please do me a favor?

This is going to be a short two parter.

1.  Little 77 second step to do today.

2.  And then another probably 35 second step to do THIS MONDAY, May 12th.

Who of you ladies wouldn't have your heart I mean MELT if your husband, your life partner thought YOU were "The Hottest" Lady in YOUR metro area?

Isn't that part of your hopes and dreams?

That no matter your age...

As you two get older together... that he will still see you with those besotted eyes of LOVE that sees YOU as "The Hottest." 

Yup.  Me, too.  It's the only way I'm going "off the market" again. 

Men, man up here.  Aren't YOU hoping, oh please, oh please, that the woman YOU are with is "Smokin' Hot."  That as you spend YEARS together, SHE still makes an effort to KEEP that HOT figure that raised your eyebrows and curled your toes when you first saw her?  That she takes care of her skin?  Cares for her hair and does these, yes, while maintaining a home for you and raising your kids, you stud muffin you, of course you sired some!

WELL!

Lisa McLellan is that lady and HER DH (dear husband), bless his masculinely leading male heart, submitted her photo, you know, the one by her profile with the CUTE doggie, for a contest for KIss FM's BOSTON'S HOTTEST MOM CONTEST - VOTE MAY 12th.

Today, please click here and REGISTER.  KIss FM's BOSTON'S HOTTEST MOM CONTEST - VOTE MAY 12th

Then on Monday, May 12th, I will give you the EASY instructions for how to CAST YOUR VOTE for LISA as Boston's HOTTEST MOM.  Cause we know she really is, inside and out, right?  I mean, she runs BabySitting, Baby Sitting, Child Care, Nanny Care and is able still to kiss boo boos.  Who would want to be trained by her for BabySitting, Childcare, and Nanncy Care skills and trust her with their precious children?

And yes, while you are at it, would you PLEASE send all of your friends, yes, the ones even in your cell phone over here to do this, too?

I want her to win.  For her DH who thinks HE is SUCH a lucky man because HE is a married to "Boston's HOTTEST Mom."

And, of course, he's right.

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Lisa McLellan

So, I HOPE you have been out shopping at The Mall for Mother's Day 2008, yes? 

Well, while you are there, be sure to pick up on some Excellent Self Care.

If you need some help and guidance, please do go check out the website of leading certified dermatologist, Dr. Peter Helton.  Not only is his advise superb, but he also has some FAB skin care prods available at his website.

I am RELIGIOUS about skin care. 

Skin Medica
TNS
gentle cleanser
some light exfoliant
SUN SCREEN

The point of PRACTICING excellent GROOMING (more the male side of the picture, more on that later, or maybe one of the men I know will address that, Tim, honey, you're The Answer Man.  Could I get you please to address that for me?  I can say a lot about that (I can hear you laughing now, don't even try to fake it!), but some of these things are best heard from another MAN, n'est pas?  Or perhaps that amazing specimen of manly leadership, leadership training, founder of the Southern California based The Sales and Leadership Institute, Steve Chambers, will help us out there.

ok, the POINT of practicing good grooming is indeed to have that be YOUR STANDARD, Your Status Quo.

You raise your Face Value by so doing. 

And then as you are dating... going along in life and meeting new people... building your business....  THAT is how is NORMAL for YOU and NORMAL for how they See You.

So, go ahead, raise your face value and Practice some EXCELLENT Self - Care!

I know, you're disappointed I didn't talk about breasts.  Hmm, well, the care of that area will have to be the topic of at least three more blog posts.  Because we DO LOVE the girls, don't we?  And the tender care and nurture of The Girls, aka the Ta Tas, Hooters, Patooties,  well, THAT is indeed important, is it not?

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Dr Roth is a VERY happy man

And here you thought that perhaps this Sunday you would get a break?  Pfff.  We think not.

So, I did mention this in my comments from my previous blog post.  I thought I'd better make it its OWN post.

Leverage Mother's Day while you are at the Mall shopping for women, ah, I mean, of course, a present for your mother.

One of the feminine attributes I encourage my female clients to leverage in wanting MASCULINE men to pursue them is I recommend, LET him Be The Man.  LET him be The Expert.  LET him be AN expert.  Yes, when we are competing in a field, we are BOTH men.  I'm just the one with breasts, as I was amusedly telling one man whom I met at Image Takeaway weekend in Philly on Sunday who was asking me more about my work as a Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach.  He liked that.  Of course, most men enjoy when we cite BREASTS.  Even just the use of the word, BREASTS is hypnotic, isn't it?  Got your attention if you're a man.  The women - our eyes just bug out a bit and then we laugh, either externally or at least internally.  Audacious, isn't it?  Well, indeed, be a little audacious.

Well, just as men like to be treated as Experts in SOME field, to put them in their I'm feeling MANLY mode, so women can SAFELY and easily be approached for expert advise about WHAT DO WOMEN LIKE IN SHOPPING?  This an area where WE are the experts, or like to purport ourselves that way, and we're safely NOT competing. 

Leverage that it is Mother's Day this Sunday.  (you DID know, right? Of course you did.  And if not, I'm helping you out on another level. No charge.  My pleasure.)  Ask other women, what're you getting your mother for mother's day? I don't want to JUST get her flowers/take her for brunch. I want to do something SPECIAL to give. What would YOU recommend?

Ah, now you have her pleasantly talking with you.

She is opening up to you about WHAT SHE LIKES and it's not just utterly fabulous shoes.

"Oh, really, that sounds so cool. I'm so glad I asked you for your advise. Wow. That's such a help. I can just SEE giving that to a woman...."  time to segue here, gentlemen.  She is In Rapport with you NOW.  Leverage it...   "How would you like to go get a coffee here and take a break from shopping with me?"  Cool, wasn't that?  After the charming coffee, "Audry, I've really had a great time talking with you and getting to know you a little.  I want to see you again.  Would you like to go to dinner with me sometime?"  Breath.  Pause.  "How is Friday night for you?"

And since some of you here are divorced dads with SONS, you can SO leverage that, too.  "My SONS have no idea what to give their mother.  What would YOU recommend?"  And then just wait.  She will start thinking.  Look at her expectantly.  OBT.  Of COURSE she wants to help you and answer you.  The stream of consciousness will start in about..... 17 seconds.

You know, with it being Wednesday, you could do this...

Thursday
Friday
Saturday

and have 3 dates, AT LEAST, from doing this.....  Just to help you out and to get you thinking and IN ACTION.  Go!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Elliot Hoppe, April Brasewll, Karl

So this is for my single male friends who are always asking me, not quite whining, but you know, male nagging, "How can I meet more women?  What do I say when I meet them.?"  etc.

I'm going to have to give you a quickie here (I know you'll forgive me!) and elaborate on it later.

Where are there LOTS and LOTS of women?

What do women LOVE to do?  (before and after sex, of course)

Hmmm, I know you know.  Work with me here people.

SHOP!

Yes, so where are the women? What are we doing?  Shopping.

So?

Go to the mall.

Go there at lunchtime.

Go in the evenings.

Go on the weekends.

More later!

All the best, April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

Steve Chambers, April Braswell, Karl

Another great place to meet people and PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE your social skills including Dressing Up and looking fantastic is to become a Lover...... of The Arts.

In San Francisco all of the Arts Orgs have a Young Professionals affiliated org. 

Encore!
Bravo! Club
Symphonix

They host events throughout the year, cocktail parties.  These are both FUN and the Arts orgs are worthy of your support and audience development.

Of course, I grew UP with these things growing up near The Met Opera as well as McCarter Theatre which regularly hosted classical music events.

Now, as a glamorous and super sexy lady (Dave Lakhani described me as "Smoking Hot"), I always have a knack for being able to meet man anyway, but I'll just WAVE my red hankie in the face of the single men like John Wadsworth, mortgage, credit, and real estate answers and Matt Shields, The Energy Oracle.  Gentlemen, you will meet LOTS of CHICKS.  HOT CHICKS, namely well-dresses and really sweet women at these events.  Just an FYI if you want to go somewhere a little different to meet women!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach

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